Opallauryn
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KittyCat2023 :
I’ve had friends tell me this and it makes you feel so unseen
2026-06-04 13:26:49
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Persephone :
I think in non abusive relationships your partner is a reflection of you, but when abuse is involved the rules of the game are completely flipped. I don't really tell people about my ex because of the dreaded "who you date is a reflection of you," people just don't understand that I was more or less a hostage in that situation, I didn't want to be there but people just don't understand the complexities of abuse
2026-07-14 23:20:00
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Ashley :
Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve been going through basically the exact same thing and every time I see your videos I have to scroll because we were still living together and I couldn’t face someone expressing how I feel inside. I’ll be going back and watching your story so I’m not alone.
2026-06-04 15:57:47
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ashley ashborn 🪐 :
So glad you are digging into all of this and sharing with us. I've shared some, but with an ongoing custody case, I have to be careful how much I divulge. Your sharing just continues to reaffirm how IMPORTANT it is for us to be sharing. This is how we change the world. The butterfly effect. 🦋
2026-06-04 23:54:36
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Ari 🐳 (they/them) :
thank you, Lauryn!!! i’m so proud of you, too
2026-06-04 20:07:02
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Troy :
You're an amazing human
2026-07-04 15:23:36
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thevioletv0id :
I recently left, I didn’t realize how much I needed someone to say they were proud of me. Thank you.
2026-06-05 05:05:49
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🌼 Shauna 💛 :
Thankyou 🫶💔
2026-06-04 14:01:43
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Kalee Jade Blazek :
😭 I could have made this video.
2026-06-23 18:12:45
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kiskatas :
The thing is that when you’re in it you wouldn’t believe in a million years that you are being abused. Like for me it took the betrayal for me to finally see it! It took something completely shocking to bring the truth and the awareness. Then it’s all in hindsight that you can be like omg yeah wtf why did that seem normal!! People should be blown away by the abusive behavior and how insidious it is not pointing blame at someone who’s been through hell. I think people get scared and want to think that it would never happen to them but we all who’ve been through it know that’s wishful thinking. All we can do is share to help ourselves heal and hopefully help others know what covert emotional and psychological abuse can look like! Thanks for making these!
2026-06-04 18:11:44
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Shane :
Most will never realize just how gradual the abuse starts. The beginning is always sunshine and rainbows. Someone who seems to understand and hear you like no one else has before. The gradual small changes overtime could be months or years are not really noticeable. They are just seemingly blips that just get overlooked and explained away. By the time you realize just how bad it is, you have no one with which to share, talk to about it. You just have the abuser, and you know if you say anything it will only make life more miserable. So you hide yourself, shrink yourself just to survive one more day. The guilt you feel when you finally get free is almost more unbearable than the abuse was at first. Ma’am hear me it does get better, not right away not within weeks. It could be years unpacking everything, healing, just finding yourself again. This goes for anyone who reads this. Give yourself love, understanding, and grace you did nothing to deserve this.
2026-06-04 13:39:32
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Riktastic :
I stayed in one abusive relationship and never told anyone what I’ve been through BECAUSE ppl around me would make comments like “unlike you I would never let myself be treated like that”; those kind of speech made me feel even more afraid of leaving because I was so fragile at that moment, any form of judgement would crush me especially from ppl who I thought was on my side
2026-06-04 13:37:42
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Masha :
Honestly, with the patriarchy that we grew up in, it’s not about the women who end up in abusive relationship relationships because we’ve all more or less been conditioned between society, moves and TV to think that when males are mean and violent it’s a show of affection. And so no matter how strong you really are that does not indicate whether or not you’re safe from an abusive relationship. I’m sorry people blame you because it’s not your fault.
2026-06-04 17:55:27
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𝒌𝒊 ✧.* :
I really appreciate you sharing your experience. I have had the same feelings. I remember a moment towards the end when he finally snapped and towered over me, screaming in my face… I felt like I was looking at my father. I fawned, I was so scared it would turn physical if I hadn’t deescalated. And I have to remind myself of that moment whenever I think of the good. It’s not easy to walk away or let go, and abuse is so gradual and insidious, especially emotional abuse. I read the book ‘Why Does He Do That’, which was extremely insightful, seeing his archetype of an abuser written out in front of me was jarring. They know exactly what they’re doing, they have a sense of entitlement and control. I didn’t realize it was abuse until I spoke out about it and others told me what he was doing was harmful. In my head it wasn’t abuse if it didn’t involve name calling/insults or physical abuse. But I look back and see it for what it was, a pattern of harmful behavior. And I am terrified to speak out on it because of how he might spin it if I do. Thank you so much, you are so strong. And I’m so proud of you!!
2026-06-04 15:40:48
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Debbie Seccombe :
Coming up on the end of my 2nd divorce. I had made a comment on another post and some man said that they were probably my fault. I responded with how I’ve been now educated on narcissistic tendencies and how I hoped that they have the life they deserve. Talking about situations with friends that are flooding my memories is pretty shameful. Because just verbalizing it, can’t believe that I put up with it all. They say, “ well that’s a red flag “. Unfortunately there’s so many over our 20 year relationship. Now I have the vocabulary and insight to what was happening to me. I’m happy to be on the healing path now with you 🥰
2026-06-09 18:39:23
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zoe ⚡️ :
‘Waking up to the abuse’ is literally the best way to describe it. You slowly start to understand what was abuse and what was normal and what wasn’t. Sending love xxx
2026-06-28 20:13:14
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The Life of a Cat Girl :
And I wish my mom was the one saying this to me. Instead I got more hurt, betrayal, and pain from my whole family. So I sit here listening to a stranger and I cry alone because some days it feels like I’m the only one that really understands the depths of it. 😭
2026-07-03 22:58:31
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motherhac :
absolutely! victim shaming is so common, unfortunately. but focus on what the knowledge that telling your story is powerful for healing yourself and helping others who are also experiencing same traumatic situations are not alone. I agree some of the hardest things for me to accept,and grieve is that I thought that I wasn't going to allow abuse again, but it happened in different forms until I relaim my self worth/ love I proud of you. I believe you. you deserve love without control.
2026-06-12 17:03:48
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░m░a░t░t░e • Friend :
I'm so sorry you were betrayed right when you thought you were safe. i can't even imagine
2026-06-30 15:05:40
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jen_early_mcgonigle :
I fell for manipulation and I am a fairly smart person. people afterwards said I was too smart to "fall for it." My ex was a trained liar. Anyone can end up in a bad relatipnship. ANYONE.
2026-06-10 20:30:17
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Brenda Winkle | Empath Guide :
Love this. Agreed!!!! Let’s stop victim blaming
2026-06-25 03:17:39
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Belly Magic :
I have heard this so many times from people who think of themselves as well meaning...ugh.
2026-06-26 20:36:31
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it reenforces shame!
2026-06-05 16:18:03
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