Opallauryn
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Christin Voscort Art :
So true! I didn’t know how much constant criticism could affected me. Also the “I’m doing it to help you” does not help either.
2026-06-04 16:31:47
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NekkiaShynese| Content Creator :
These conversations are so important to have. Thank you for your vulnerability and transparency. I’m proud of you! Wishing you the best on your journey forward. 💛
2026-06-04 15:17:17
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Kristina :
its not at you but your autonomy choices etc...
2026-07-16 20:57:27
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Alex ✨🌈 :
This is so helpful to know about this type of coercive control. I’m a survivor and hoping to work with victims and survivors, and this was useful, thank you. That must have been so hard to identify and desk with
2026-06-04 18:13:30
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ashley ashborn 🪐 :
I was here too a few years ago. 💘💘💘 Resonate so much.
2026-06-04 20:57:52
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deliciousstitches :
That is so hard. I’m so grateful you got out and you are getting back to your own peace. 🥰🥰🥰
2026-06-04 14:30:34
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Cat :
This is so spot on and is my marriage. Thank you so much for being so open about this, it has brought me a lot of clarity.
2026-06-05 12:19:47
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Kalee Jade Blazek :
giiirl
2026-06-23 18:21:25
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Marli📚❤️ :
Thank you
2026-06-16 18:19:22
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S :
thank you for speaking on this......i just realized how much of myself i've stripped away because my husband has indirectly shamed me for a lot. i used to love shoes and had a lot of pairs....He made comments about them and i slowly dwindled them down to 1 pair of each type
2026-06-04 19:59:51
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Lorraine Walnut :
Also it’s embarrassing when you realize what’s going on. You don’t want to tell people what’s going on because you will feel ashamed. And also it’s risky. Victim blaming happens all the time. It’s scary that they might invalidate you.
2026-06-06 12:14:21
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𝒌𝒊 ✧.* :
I know I keep commenting, i hope you don’t mind me sharing, but your videos and experiences are so relatable it’s like we dated the same person. I’ve had similar experiences with my ex. For example: I used to love going into the big city we lived close to and he would agree to drive but he hated the traffic and the parking and would road rage (scream, smash his phone into the steering wheel, swear, silent treatments) and make such a big deal and say how much he hated this city, one time even driving back home when he couldn’t find parking. And I would freeze and feel so sad and scared to even acknowledge how ridiculous it was to drive 30 minutes into the city just to turn around over parking, over the fear of worsening the situation. And at times he would say “Sorry, I know you like the city,” and I would get upset over how much he would shit on it and he would say “it’s not directed at you or I’m not attacking you. Why do you take it so personal?” (This wasn’t just the city, there were other interests he would criticize, he was like a contrarian which can be exhausting.) or ask why I didn’t want to take a trip down there, how he doesn’t understand why I have a hard time asking… but like.. your reaction to what you framed as a fun date idea turned into a nightmare, insulting a place I enjoy and making me feel like if I ask to go… it turns into a big problem and I’m the cause of it because I asked. Why would I feel safe to ask?? And the fact that if he can control his anger and frustration with other people in the car but can’t do it when I’m the only one in the car, that’s a key indicator of an abusive man and a sense of entitlement. And these are things I wouldn’t tell my friends out of fear. There’s so many other examples. Hindsight 20/20
2026-06-04 15:58:40
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MSKennedy99 :
That's a good point about how it looked different with him than with others that criticized you personally. You learn to look for certain things, but there are so many ways abuse can show up. I didn't have the language for it at the time, but when I realized I was in another abusive relationship even though it looked different than the last one, I called it a different flavor.
2026-06-05 19:41:39
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goni :
So interesting! Crazy that a lot of it was probably projection, as he put you both in financial hardship at the end. Love your content, so happy you’re free ❤️would love to hear more!
2026-06-05 02:09:06
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frugalhousewife :
My heart sank while you were talking the whole time. My husband does the same thing.
2026-06-05 01:13:38
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True North :
So much of my marriage was this. Death by a thousand cuts.
2026-06-17 17:30:04
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breakupdiaries :
Literally almost to a tee the exact same experience - even criticism to picking out the house that I actually never wanted and having that brought up so often. He wanted a house, I chose the house and he agreed. Was thrown in my face in every argument and at the end.
2026-06-08 00:58:51
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fashionably.late.bloomer :
this is how it was for me trying to explain to people why I couldn't have a job in my marriage. Because my husband would never say "You're not allowed to work", but when I *did* have a job he was CONSTANTLY criticizing everything I'd tell him about my day. "Why were you driving your own car to run a company errand? Why were doing *whatever task* that isn't in your job description? Oh they want to pay for you to get your notary certification? Well you need to make sure they don't try to take advantage of you and have you sign documents you're not supposed to." I couldn't ever just vent about a bad day because "they don't even pay you enough for you to be stressed about anything". He didn't have to tell me that he didn't want me working, because he made it such a miserable experience that I quit on my own 🙃
2026-06-05 16:20:57
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Jess_plays_this :
My ex did this too
2026-07-05 15:35:17
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