TheRealNicCoy
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Thursday 04 June 2026 15:47:43 GMT
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Stacy McSwain :
Girl, it’s been 17 years since I went no-contact with my mom. And you’re absolutely right, it’s still her voice I hear. It’s still the fear of making HER angry that keeps me from speaking up for myself, and feeling like it’s wrong to defend myself. Not being capable of handling confrontation. Because it wasn’t allowed. I was just diagnosed with PTSD, ADHD, CPTSD, and dissociative disorder at 45, and your videos speak to me the most as I’m trying to understand and heal myself. Thank you for what you do. I am so grateful for you. ❤️
2026-06-04 16:40:58
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Esmeralda Reyes 🦋 :
No more gatekeeping guys, read The Forbidden Book of Reality by Michael Walker, this changed my life!
2026-06-05 18:57:09
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Balsamic :
OMG! 😱 😣 true!!!!
2026-06-10 18:08:38
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creativeco :
I’m working on it and I’m 66 years old and now her caregiver. It’s really hard.
2026-06-04 19:11:16
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Ari Kay :
I’m going to be vulnerable and real for a minute, so please don’t attack me. My oldest daughter came into the world when I was 21 years old. I was dealing with a lot emotionally and she has ADHD. I know I was too hard on her before I realized she had ADHD. I know I was critical, and even though I told her I loved her all the time, which I do very much, I know that my criticisms have held weight with her even although as soon as she got the diagnosis, I learned what I could about ADHD and changed my parenting to better support her. As an adult, she still is very affected by how I treated her up until age 9. Granted, we have done some family therapy, and I have made amends, but I know it’s not enough. She will be turning 30 this year, and I’m open to suggestions on how I can be a better support person for her and my grandsons, because right now they really don’t have anyone. Thank you 😊
2026-06-04 16:17:03
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Craygan Grant 🇨🇦 :
after 39 years of having that negative narrative in my head, I am finally trying to unlearn everything i had picked up since I was a little one. its hard. but it is possible
2026-06-04 23:42:14
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Bitchy Old Crabby Ben 🦀 :
True story. Not many concepts apply to everyone but i believe this is a universal experience to survivors of a narcissistic parent
2026-06-04 18:31:53
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ETL :
Thank you for this. 🙏🏻 I needed to hear this. 20 years ago, my mom told me that we will “fix” me. It has taken most of my life to realize the only thing needing fixed was what I was told and the voice she left in my head. ❤️
2026-06-10 15:06:04
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Construction Angel :
OMG. Nicole - youve literally been put on this earth to do this - ❤️🙏
2026-06-06 23:47:32
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TheHerbalistHangout :
Your videos wreck me in the absolutely most necessary way 🙏 thank you for sharing what you do
2026-06-04 16:36:29
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Yellow Phoenix :
This wonderful advice and it's a little eerie, because use this practice I call thought tracing and it's what you are describing. It starts with a question, What is the source or seed to this thought or action. I explore that territory with as much accuracy as I can with my faulty human memory. The younger you are the harder it gets. Then once I find the source I make a choice by asking a second question do I want to this to keep having power over me and I do this with both good and bad things. It's really powerful and it passively catches new voices seeping into your consciousness before it's gets a chance to take root. Really powerful. Thank you for sharing. 💛
2026-06-04 17:06:39
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🍁Diane🇨🇦 :
“Not good enough” is a very common limiting belief given to many by someone else. 💔
2026-06-10 19:38:23
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Yvonne Broadwater-Seitz :
So very true!
2026-06-05 19:36:29
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❤️LILBIT❤️ :
My mom started the narrative and my ex-husband continued..BUT NOW I'M REWRITING MY OWN STORY!!
2026-06-05 09:39:22
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anemoia 🇫🇮🇸🇪🇦🇺 :
As a millennial I always picture my automatic negative narrator as a cassette tape, A side has been recorded over luckily but the B side is more stubborn 💔
2026-06-04 20:11:30
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funemume :
was so hard growing up like that. finally healed at 50. 🥰
2026-06-10 02:32:32
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taftab. :
Thank you 👍
2026-06-04 16:25:51
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Ian🇨🇦 :
... and then you marry your mother for 34 years. Then you write a book for 5.5 months, got happy. Didn't withdraw. Enough work done to be free of blame anger, and resentment. She had to leave. Questions already had answers. Three years in, divorced. @ 67 I am living my best life. (free) better late than never. Grateful for your content.
2026-06-05 02:55:52
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Neenyboo :
Me to a 'T'... No matter how hard I tried/worked to love myself and be my own person without her, I could still hear that voice of her in my head, it was so strong! Even for relationships, I still hear her in my head blaming me because it went wrong, or burning unnecessary insecurities that keep/make me overly anxious attachment and end up losing them. ugh! I just feel it will never end!! I'm 57, no man no kids. It sucks! I realize I'm part of it but just need support. I can never find a good therapist as I feel they're secretly judging me. So frustrating!
2026-06-05 04:49:04
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Erika :
I helped a 72 year old man realize this about his abusive father's voice during my internship in addiction treatment. Every time he showed vulnerability and cried he'd say that he hated himself for showing emotions. The minute he realized this is the minute he started healing. One of the most powerful experiences i had during my internship, and that's when I decided to continue in this field after I get my degree ❤️
2026-06-05 07:09:34
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dave :
And how many generations back are we dealing with now,my inner voice may be a hundred years old
2026-06-04 23:36:25
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Jolene :
I just realized after decades I’ve been carrying a feeling that I’ve done something wrong. It’s been a monkey on my back since childhood. The wound IS that I was critizied and rejected by momma. Now that I am aware of that monkey it’s been liberating, but requires a lot of self awareness.
2026-06-07 11:17:12
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g :
I hate my voice so much bc I sound like her. It triggers me when I hear my voice in recordings.
2026-06-05 05:16:40
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