Opallauryn
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Thursday 04 June 2026 16:44:17 GMT
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Opallauryn :
Buying that flag was one of the biggest markers for me in standing my ground. I still feel so much shame for how many parts of myself I abandoned to stay safe in that relationship, including my queerness and my activism. I am so thankful to be healing and getting these pieces of me back. ❤️🩹
2026-06-04 16:46:44
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FishCantClimbTrees :
This is such great information for anyone experiencing this kind of control with a partner!
2026-06-04 17:30:27
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violencemadeofglue :
I had similar but it was around pursuing interests and hobbies outside the home and don't get me started on donating my time for causes! It was framed as I was needed and wanted in the home but the thing was that when all of those outside pursuits fell away, it was evident that he was highly dependant on my presence and labour but yet I felt so unwanted.
2026-06-04 19:27:57
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cherrysnoopy222 :
woahhhh you look goooood 🥰
2026-06-05 01:28:44
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kleya.bby :
Keep telling your stories!
2026-06-15 01:39:54
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frugalhousewife :
Good for you 👏👏👏
2026-06-05 01:07:16
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cass :
when I thought I was bi, I was dating a ‘progressive’ man. I wanted to go to a protest the day abortion was banned in MO. he made me leave because he felt unsafe. It made me so mad and I now realize it was control and he didn’t actually care about the progressive values that affected me and the real risks I was experiencing. anyway shoutout to figuring out I’m a lesbian
2026-06-04 17:57:31
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Beetle :
Gosh I wish I could talk to you about my relationship so you could point out if this is happening to me. I can't tell anymore because my body is telling me to get out but my brain is saying it makes no sense. But I love them, and we're queer. Idk anymore.
2026-06-04 17:48:09
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The Fur-tastic Four :
Happy Pride Month!! 🥰
2026-06-04 17:20:11
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Alex :
this is so tangential but hi fellow texan with queer parents, we are the strongest humans on earth lmao l
2026-06-05 02:19:18
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Emily | Eating and Roaming :
Ohhhhh, this hits so close to home. My first husband (married briefly in my early 20s) didn’t “allow” me to do activities outside the home other than go to work. He also traveled 2-3 weeks a month for work so I was home by myself the majority of the time. I had to go straight to work in the morning and then straight home at the end of the day, whether or not he was traveling. He said it was for my safety because I was a young woman (21 at the time) and thus a target for “creeps” (his words). I was allowed one hour a week to go to the grocery store and had to call him as I was leaving and immediately when I got home (this was in the 90s before cell phones). We did do activities outside the home when he was not traveling but only things that were his choice. Yes, he was older - we starting dating when I was 16 and he was 22 (more socially acceptable three decades ago, but still really messed up as I look back on it. And yes, I got away and left after less than a year of marriage.
2026-06-04 22:51:36
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galadrax :
You already know this, but to anyone else: It's not about protection, and never was. That was a man who thought, "Why do you need a flag when you're with me now?" I would go so far as to say he thought that you wouldn't be queer anymore because you were marrying a man. The flag wasn't important to him, so it didn't matter what you wanted. Instead of being man enough and taking steps to protect the two of you (in one of the queerest damned cities in the US! 🙄) he just decided to act like an authority figure when it wasn't his place.
2026-06-04 19:23:43
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