@hopeinmidlife: As fondly as you may remember them, it is not always a good idea to reach out to people from the past. Some people don't want to join you on your trip down memory lane. You may represent a part of their past that they'd rather leave behind. Don't take the rejection personally. However; you must respect it. I write about stuff like this all the time, from the framework of a late bloomer over 40. Click the link at the top of my bio to read other essays. #detachment #womenover40 #latebloomer #genxwomen #lessonslearned
I’m gonna stitch this. Oh my. Never heard anyone say it how I feel. Like why can’t ppl just let it be. I don’t want to reconnect 😫
2026-06-06 13:15:26
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DivineEnergy✨️♐️ :
that's me. I don't want people reaching out to me AT ALL!. if we haven't spoke in 3-6 months. we don't speak anymore.
2026-06-05 18:22:52
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Bootylicious :
Yupppp. Sometimes your past does NOT need to follow you to your present nor future.
2026-06-04 22:56:34
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Sanda miz :
1 thing that I will always be proud of myself for is not reaching out to people in my past. I learned years ago people are seasonal.
2026-06-05 18:21:42
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Camay :
A very good friend and I parted ways and I reached out to them to kinda chat about what happened and perhaps reconcile. I really wish I hadn't because that person wasn't angry or upset but they absolutely didn't want to reconcile at all.
2026-06-05 19:25:12
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Makayla 🦎⸆⸉ :
I think this is why I’m bitter whenever someone from my past reaches out like why did you wait until I’ve gotten used to not speaking to you
2026-06-05 16:31:46
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Sagewords :
So true….I know I don’t like when people reach out to me. I move on with ease
2026-06-04 23:49:35
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lifewithtren_ :
This is so true, people and experiences. This is why I don’t attend alumni and reunion events. It always sounds like a good idea but I don’t want the triggers from that time.
2026-06-05 17:38:01
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Soso🇩🇲🇻🇮 :
You just gave me a new perspective on an interaction I had while trying to reconnect with an old friend. Thanks for sharing this!
2026-06-04 23:23:15
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MoloiT :
I never thought about it that way🤔
thanks useful information
2026-06-05 21:18:45
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Khalilah :
I really like this
2026-06-05 17:34:02
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Po :
it's rude. why do they think they can just disrupt what I currently got going on?? very rude!
2026-06-05 14:28:37
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TheZinhleXperience | Strategy :
It's important to understand Seasons ✨️
2026-06-05 13:40:48
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thaaa🫀❤️🔥🪽 :
How to send this to all the people I blocked😭🤣
2026-06-06 12:49:39
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Dreya :
You are very right
2026-06-06 11:55:35
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Nonhlanhla Miya :
i can't repost but i was here
2026-06-06 13:17:46
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adailydosewithm :
Sometimes people reach out because you were their feel-good space. When they look back on a happy season of their life, you were part of it. What they remember fondly may have been a very different experience for you maybe not a great one at all. But they're trying to reconnect with the version of the relationship that made them feel good.
2026-06-06 01:14:07
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David Blane :
Just because you have a past with someone, doesn't means you're required to have a future with them. Things change, and people change.
2026-06-06 02:14:13
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Meegan💁🏾♀️🤩🌆 :
This! I think about people and realize that I’m still stuck and they’ve moved on.
2026-06-05 22:05:17
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HeyEbony :
Oh my! My stepfather! My mother passed in 94 and he remarried in early 2000s. As I’ve gotten older he completely stopped. He always come through for me when I really need him but overall he never reaches out to me at all! Now I see that it could remind him of a past with my mother he rather leave behind 😭 damn
2026-06-05 08:46:39
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Kini1015❤️ :
I wish people understood this !!
2026-06-05 12:32:39
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N :
I’m this way with my siblings they’re kind but we grew up in such dysfunction 😖 can’t heal where you got sick
2026-06-04 23:31:51
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anitaj617 :
Your video came to me at the right time. I ran into someone at a funeral whom I hadn’t seen in 20 years. We exchanged numbers and she called me but I really don’t want to talk.
2026-06-05 15:37:53
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