@badasscounseling: Cheating is not an accident. It is a sequence of conscious decisions. People love to reduce it down to “it just happened” because it sounds less brutal than the truth. But cheating starts long before anything physical happens. It starts with entertaining the conversation. Hiding messages. Seeking validation. Crossing boundaries. Putting themselves in situations they know are dangerous and continuing anyway. Every single step is a choice. And one of the hardest parts of healing is accepting that reality without trying to soften it to protect yourself emotionally. Because if you keep minimizing what happened, you stay stuck in confusion. You stay stuck bargaining with reality instead of seeing it clearly. Whether you stay or leave is your decision. But you cannot make a healthy decision until you can face the truth without fear controlling you. Clarity comes when you stop lying to yourself about what actually happened. My recently released bestseller, CHEATING SUCKS: When the bomb hits & your life explodes! will help you heal before you decide "should I stay or should | go?" Get it at BadassCounseling.com. Available in audiobook & paperback. http://BadassCounseling.com/books #infidelity #relationships #boundaries #fyp #MentalHealthAwareness
What I find worst is that if it has been going on for years, you’ve been robbed of the time you could have spent living a different life—one that wasn’t built on lies. Time is something we all have a limited amount of, and once it’s gone, you can never get it back
2026-08-02 13:35:37
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Cindy :
He was only sorry when I found out. And then I was expected to never bring it up again.
2026-06-06 15:00:47
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Ashley :
My husband cheated and his answer to doing it is “idk”
2026-07-24 23:43:53
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trxshalou :
I think once we realize that, it makes it easier to walk away.
2026-06-05 16:23:42
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Freyja V 🧹 :
yep. Just remember how much effort they put into it. that's the only thing you need to remember
2026-06-06 01:10:26
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LPP :
If they didnt want me why didnt they let me go?
2026-06-12 12:04:45
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Sulamita :
Why would anyone go back after facing something like that?
2026-06-25 00:47:50
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pixel_nomad :
I was ready to leave my marriage but my husband kept asking me for another chance, that he will do anything to fix our marriage. He has completely cut off and seems sincere and continuous to take action in repairing our marriage.. now I don’t know if I should give him a chance
2026-06-15 19:55:14
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Sarah’s time to bee 🐝 :
😔💯🙏 💔 hurts to know this after 25yrs married 😔 and probably 24yrs if him cheating 💔
2026-06-06 22:11:32
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wendicjenkinson :
So true!! Therefore, he also made the choice that our marriage would be over.
2026-06-24 15:19:47
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❌JustChris❌ :
She didn't want to choose me until I stopped choosing her.
2026-06-18 05:08:13
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Pippa 💫 ✨ :
Truest explanation I have ever heard 💯 correct
2026-06-08 14:40:54
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Anomis Matko :
That is the best explanation of how it feels when you find out… 😞
2026-06-19 11:58:03
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Cheli :
The lies right to my face is what hurt the most. "You cannot rewrite the past but you can choose to not reread it"
2026-06-09 20:29:31
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Catherine Morian :
nothing ever hurt me more ever
2026-06-07 02:10:32
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God's child0320 :
not to long found out my husband of 7 years was actually cheating for 6 year's
2026-06-07 20:04:42
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Mich :
💜💜💔…. that truly truly hurt the most 🫦😔
2026-06-21 04:58:15
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Bauchi :
Absolutely true
2026-06-10 04:09:52
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Callme_AJ76 :
Facts!! And that’s what hurts the most that while she was doing it she would come home look me dead in my eyes and kiss me and say I love you 😏💔 and try to play it down saying it was only for a month when I found out she was with her ex for 3 months, so she chose 3 months over 6 yrs that we were together and I had to find out because I had a feeling
2026-06-06 10:47:50
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Forsaken :
it truly sucks to have others chosen before you
2026-06-12 13:43:39
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Daybee :
Wow ! Hurts but it’s the truth
2026-06-19 03:18:15
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norsefreyja23 :
40 years later, still not healed.
2026-06-16 14:01:10
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Lady Leigh 38 :
This made my day... I love this😊
2026-06-09 21:58:35
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