@loudly.leo: Replying to @Stilkat Memory 🏳️🌈 throughout the years my activism caused so many fights. It was always about control. I wish I would have listened to my body, not just the words he said. #coercivecontrol #patriarchy #men #relationships #healing
Not related, but I have that same mug 😂😂 it’s my fave.
2026-06-05 15:58:48
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victoriapug94 :
My ex fiance was also progressive and I had a similar experience. I’m just glad I’m not alone. I also broke up with him last summer so I’ve had a lot of unpacking. Healing is nonlinear. I would like to DM you to share more of my story :)
2026-06-09 13:02:12
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loudly.leo :
Now looking back I can see the fights around my activism, standing up for myself, and speaking up were all about control. They were some of our most common arguments. I still grieve so much of that self I lost in this relationship. Never ever again 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
2026-06-05 14:15:51
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✨im.brighton✨ :
Maybe he shoulda left you alone?? I truly believe I was placed on this earth to make men insecure and question their worth
2026-06-05 18:53:18
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NicolaC 🇪🇺🇬🇧 :
I think the main thing I’ve taken from your most recent videos is that abuse isn’t always deliberate. I’m sure that sometimes it is, but sometimes it comes from conditioning, as you say. In some ways that must make it harder because it’s so tempting to think “if I can just find a phrase that will get thru to him and make him understand”.
2026-06-05 16:32:58
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cl :
i will nit tolerate a partner who will not stick up for me. i can do it myself. but so should you.
2026-06-06 00:33:34
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🪬AJS🪬 :
This is one of the many reasons I’m divorced, had the same dynamic with my ex husband and his fam. He’d never stand up for me, even when he agreed with me 🤷♀️
2026-06-06 22:10:46
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squigglymagic :
There are feminist posters from the 1970s that say basically “he may be a communist, but does he do the dishes?” It’s so disappointing for men to still have the exact same problems 50 years later.
2026-06-05 20:09:31
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