@nicknamed.bree: 📢 Avoidant Translator! The series where I tell you what people with avoidant attachment styles really mean when they say…that. #avoidantattachment

Josh :

The gift giving example is REEEEEEEAAAAL!!! Spot on! Holy shit lol!

. :

the gift thing for me is actually more like I don't thing anyone knows me well enough to give me something I actually want so I am already bracing for disappointment and the mental energy it takes to still look appreciative. so I'd rather just get nothing. I also just don't get that much enjoyment out of gifts anyways.

graceless🌈 :

So they avoid every feeling there is ?

Ajibola Oki :

But they feel very comfortable gifting you

Grace :

Gifts just overwhelm me because whether I like it or not I feel the pressure to perform an emotion. I love giving gifts on the other hand.

monicajclay🎨🫟 :

Mine loves gift but hates giving!! What’s that about?

Dee Ní hArrachtáin :

I gave my Avoidant Ex a really cool but very large gift that we could both us. he couldn't handle it and it was like reminder in our home. I had to return it.

Jayce :

Well im actually great at giving gifts…i just dont want to receive any😂

Taylor :

God the avoidant gave me gifts and when I reciprocated it back he was like what did I do to deserve this gift? like I was just matching your energy!

user4773387310824 :

The gift thing…

Casandra :

Omg stop. This explains why he never celebrated holidays. No gifts. nothing

matchaholik_ak :

I HATEEEEE gift giving. Pls don’t give me flower. Pls don’t give me blanket. Pls don’t give me nothing. The moment you give me anything I start to feel burdened and want to leave.

magda :

For me it's more about not being able to find an equally good gift to give back so ill give them a stupid gift back and then they'll hate me and reject me

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Kit :

I HATE when people give me gifts.

princessangelmoon :

It’s giving please go to therapy I not going to decide

user27901 :

god you got me with the gift thing 💀

🕯️🗝️QuietFire🗝️🕯️ :

How did you get inside of my head?!

TheBrokeHobbyist :

Ah for the last one it’s usually “I’m getting to the point where my consideration for your feelings is being outweighed by truths I’ve spared you from and if I say them honestly there will be no going back because I can’t just apologize as though i said those things in the heat of the moment they were just how I felt the whole time and now that’s out there forever and I also decided unilaterally that you weren’t mature enough to handle it in the first place which is also out in the open now”

Aldryx Thetahart :

I understand why he was like this. But GOD, I wish that he’d worked on himself before making me collateral damage of his his own broken sense of self. I understand when he’s like this, but I’ll never forgive him.