@growwithkaela: DARVO means Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. It’s not just a narcissistic tactic. Your DA does a version of it too, and it’s just as disorienting. The difference is intent. A narc flips the script for power. A DA flips it for survival. But the result is the same. You end up apologizing for having a valid feeling. You’re not crazy, and you weren’t too sensitive. You just held up a mirror they refused to look into.

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garybroderick
gary s. broderick :
what is DA?
2026-06-08 16:55:30
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bearbeerbarebars
Gggdh :
District attorney. That’s why it’s so hard to go to court.
2026-06-09 01:34:03
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gegobenny
Gegoben :
You have a good message, but not defining DA is an odd choice, leaving half your message a mystery.
2026-07-05 15:15:16
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intheouterworlds
Vesper :
lol when you ask them about one of the people they use for validation. “Oh I got to know them while they were in a relationship!!!” Like what?
2026-08-07 16:31:51
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kayyyyk0
Kay :
Can you make this so I can download?
2026-06-09 03:09:21
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skibidiadolfh
skibidiadolfh :
Literally my wife. Then she accused me of doing this lol
2026-07-31 15:10:38
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unknownaccount015882
T00Much :
Good to know it’s got a name
2026-07-28 00:16:32
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justencarguy83
JustenCarGuy83 :
Every single time...
2026-07-30 12:19:15
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la.shelterfurbabiesneedu
la.shelterfurbabiesneedu :
I don’t apologize. I tell him he’s acting like a baby. I don’t play into his games.
2026-08-07 06:41:26
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pjhennigan1
PJ :
Appreciate this clarity. Told I was too much, and there was “always something!” But nothing ever got addressed
2026-08-07 13:51:32
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hucklecat4
Hucklecat :
Same outcome either way.
2026-06-08 17:57:52
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xi_wow_wow
Soy_Meño :
I love your tattoo can we see it more fully!?
2026-06-11 22:19:09
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alex.schmid4
Alex Schmid :
I dont think there is any difference to the victim between a covert narcissist and a dismisssive avoidant.
2026-06-09 12:49:15
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damieneuell
Damien Euell :
This hit. For the longest I thought they were narcissistic. But, this made /makes sense. 🙏💙
2026-06-09 23:34:28
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leahlala412
Lea :
I refuse to apologize. That apparently makes me a monster, but oh well
2026-06-10 02:13:07
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chicletinhd
ChicletInHD :
The amount of times I’ve heard, “it’s not what you said but how you said it”…leading me to try to soften my tone all the time. Or the time (after a couple days of arguing) that I said I’d be better off talking to a tree because I was feeling unheard…only to have to apologize for it later because it was hurtful. There was no change in trying to hear me though.
2026-06-09 15:03:08
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foundmywings20
MamaB :
dammit, I knew my DA was doing it
2026-06-09 17:02:48
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risse_44
Risto :
Yep it happened to me and I had the smarts to notice it in real time 😅
2026-06-17 22:29:15
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danathoand
Flowerchildnay :
Yesssss this, he would be like “It’s the way you speak. It’s your tone.” So they’re not conscious of this?
2026-06-09 17:50:08
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greenthumb88
Green Thumb :
what do you do when they do this?
2026-06-08 16:07:29
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erikamichelle1
Erika Michelle :
This is so true.
2026-06-13 13:23:51
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prepperdawg
Prepper Dawg :
it's real
2026-06-09 11:02:57
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jofarnsworth908
Jo :
I was called jealous and over reactive when he would flirt with other women.
2026-06-08 21:28:34
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