@phoenixpathway: You Are Managing His Moods And Calling It Attentiveness Your automatic pivot into fixing his bad mood is not consideration it is survival. You have learned to interpret his shifts adjust your tone and swallow your thoughts before you even realize you are doing it. The entire relationship is organized around his comfort while your own interior life gets processed later in private. Stop running on your energy alone. Let his mood land without softening the edges and see whose job it actually is to fix it. #relationshipadvice #datingtipsforwomen #feminineenergy #knowyourworth

Cassie :

How are you so accurate

nokechic07 :

And when once you see it..you completely reset & resentment sinks in

Krystin :

I appreciate these videos. they let me know I'm not actually crazy

rosalabue1 :

Do you offer couples counseling via zoom?

💕💤Jenn💤💕 :

Here’s my interesting experience: I’ve mostly stopped doing this (with the help of my therapist). So now, after years together, he’s asking ME constant “temp” checks, like to the point of annoying (“what’s wrong, what’s on your mind,”) almost like he’s nervous now.

Debbie 🫶🏼 :

I can’t tell you how grateful I am for your awareness

SeeingPatterns :

It never did get registered, it was entirely organized around his feelings to attempt to maintain a peaceful environment for the kids

HR Lovegood :

9 months into my last serious relationship, I caught that I was in the inception stages of this sequence. I was communicating to him what I was seeing but he didn’t adjust with me. I knew it couldn’t be my job to regulate everything emotionally and that meant saying goodbye. It hurt, but it was so much better than being stuck in that sequence.

rebuilt27886 :

Wow 😩 another point that’s spot on Sir

Silena Kester :

It’s some how my fault. No more!

The Frog Mage :

thank you for holding me accountable

bugdocyogi :

I have been unlearning these for the last 4.5 years with my new partner. he just doesn't really react most of the time which actually makes me feel MORE anxious. like where's the outburst? where are the accusations? where's the dismissal? then when it doesn't come I'm just left to sit in my spiral. thankfully he's patient and kind and has done wonders for my physiological responses to simple interactions

erinm_cscott :

So you’re describing my marriage, I’ve identified this and tried to talk to him and he’s wanting divorce, so looks like I have my answer. Thank you for your content ♥️

jboogie💚zen :

Okay BARSSSSS

🏝My Story🏝{Theda} :

I am forced to be the adult every time (under those circumstances)

smithinformed707 :

She is not me. I could never

Amanda Woods :

thank you ❤️

ElleDub :

Oooophf 😣

Nathancandoitforsure :

I heard that the relationship is almost the easy part. You can see when there happy. Have good days. Get the dopamine hit. It’s when it ends when the hard part. All the untangling. Thank you for your videos.

Jenny's Penny's :

I'm not even in second. more like 4th. my problems or needs are a problem. it is always about him. my dad died two weeks ago & he hasn't comforted me yet. he was annoyed that he was asked to help with a tribute party. he won't leave. well when he does it's for a few hours. so I sit wondering if he'll leave or if this will fall into place as a lovely life....🙄🤣 I haven't you Landon in so very long. And here you are when it feels like I'm drowning. Thank you

SeeingPatterns :

Trish :

Noticing that as I understand and try to change my responses and lesson the carrying it becomes a safety issue because it seems impossible for him to regulate himself therefore point at me to blame his feelings

bestdayeverinfinity :

what kind of mothers raise these men?

Jesus :

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