Say Something Michael
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Tuesday 09 June 2026 21:17:25 GMT
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Jackal_the_Rascal :
People pleasing is dangerous!!!
2026-06-10 20:24:02
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Gatica.1728 :
This is why autistic people are targeted so much. We struggle so much with paying attention to our discomfort. Sometimes there are moments I just don’t know how I feel. It sucks, but I am learning more and more each day.
2026-06-10 01:58:40
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Jeny :
your video is stellar. brilliant. clear and concise. but the truth is always multifaceted and likely paradoxical. so I hope you don't mind if I add this: a good way to tell is they expect you not to say ouch when it hurts also if someone loves you it will hurt them when you say ouch, sometimes that looks similar. you'll know because of their other actions, do they ever give or just take.
2026-06-28 15:51:02
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Frowny :
there's a movie about this it's called "speak no evil', which explores overly compliant overly nice people and the consequences of having no spine. it has one of the most chilling and frustrating endings you'll ever watch in film. (make sure you watch the original not the American remake)
2026-06-10 07:40:38
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Louise Warren :
I think self betrayal is a better description than compliant. I not a compliant person but in the past I have betrayed myself for another’s comfort
2026-06-10 07:22:21
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Danielle Crews :
Boundaries and standards keep you safe🥰🥰
2026-06-19 14:33:21
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LordPetersWhimzy :
This is why I teach my kids that they don’t have to be nice to rude adults or people who make them uncomfortable.
2026-06-19 19:52:57
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Christopher :
I cringe when I hear parents tell their kids “give uncle so and so a kiss” after getting a present or something, or give so and so a hug. No. That little kid should be able to exercise their own agency and not be coerced to give physical affection when they don’t want to.
2026-06-21 15:30:47
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She With Unveiled Face :
You broke this down so that even teenagers can understand. This is useful teaching.
2026-06-10 02:54:47
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Tish Tansil :
I tell people..you don't have to answer your phone or open your door. You don't have to engage in a conversation with anyone. #disengage
2026-06-11 13:00:01
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Kincaidium :
Yes, so stop saying sorry when you mean something else like ‘excuse me’ or ‘say again’.
2026-06-11 12:42:35
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Jessica Braxton :
THIS is precisely why I never liked the saying “get comfortable with being uncomfortable”.
2026-06-19 01:15:49
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itiswhatitis :
My family said I'm overreacting. My answer was to stop visiting as much.
2026-06-10 13:24:47
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gabby :
this is why discernment, boundaries are so incredibly important.
2026-06-10 20:33:38
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shaye :
teach kids they should have boundaries and that they deserve to be respected too!
2026-06-14 19:01:50
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PerceptionCheck :
it's the difference between assertiveness and passive.
2026-06-29 22:08:12
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SouthernSweetie :
Read The Gift of Fear....amazing book talks about this a ton.
2026-06-10 11:13:20
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beardie gaming :
I wish we could normalize in society, just expressing our level of comfort in the moment. doesn't need to be crazy or hurtful or whatever but just if something is done or said, rather than taking it as it is and ignoring it; if we could tell that other person. I think that would make the world so much better all around. it would make the uncomfortable people feel heard and give them that knowledge that they expressed their boundary and what they were feeling. it would give the person who made them uncomfortable some information to reflect on, some kind of feedback so they're not assuming that what they just did or said was wanted. if we could better communicate to each other I think a lot of the problems we find ourselves with could maybe be prevented or at least lessened
2026-06-28 20:59:41
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Nevyn Haven :
beautifully put. I have CPTSD and I have trained myself to react to that discomfort instinctively by putting up an immediate barrier. I was born a people pleaser and tauhht to ignore my own discomfort. The biggest key in healing and avoiding repeats of this was to learn that my discomfort is the only red flag I need.
2026-06-10 06:35:00
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probablybetternot :
This is why it’s important for parents to teach children to make choices, not to just be obedient. And also to be ready that a person trying to get you to do something that you shouldn’t or don’t want to do may get mad. Its ok for them to be mad. Their feelings are not more important than your feelings or wellbeing.
2026-06-10 14:27:57
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kaliciealexus :
Stand on your boundaries stop worrying about being liked
2026-06-19 21:45:02
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LaRue :
I’m working on speaking up for myself :(
2026-06-11 14:08:18
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Frances Bright :
When I pulled into the parking lot of a nearly empty restaurant- our first meeting- I got out and said hello- and he was standing there and said- “looks like you didn’t really park in the lines very well”. What I should have done is drive away. Instead I got back in my car and parked carefully in the lines. There were no other cars. It was stupid. That started a 3 year relationship that ended horribly.
2026-06-10 15:20:32
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Purple Squirrel :
I'm so grateful that there is no lag time between my discomfort and my vocalizing it.
2026-06-10 14:18:54
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✨ C H R I S S Y 🤍 A N G E L ✨ :
Um this just healed years of trauma for me.
2026-06-19 23:22:01
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