_kaorimiyazono_ :
Yes, loving an avoidant person as someone with an anxious attachment style is incredibly painful. You try your best to understand why they pull away, why they need space, and why they disappear when things get overwhelming for them. Pero while you're busy understanding them, unti-unti kang nadudurog.
They leave in the middle of a conversation, then come back hours later—or even the next day—acting as if nothing happened, na para bang dika nasaktan. Meanwhile, you're still sitting with the confusion, the hurt, and the overthinking na iniwan nila sayo. You want to talk about it, but instead, you pretend you're okay because you're afraid that bringing it up will only start another argument or push them further away.
You keep giving patience, reassurance, and understanding, hoping they'll eventually do the same for you. But sometimes it feels like you're carrying the emotional weight of the relationship alone. The hardest part is not the distance itself—it's feeling like your needs are too much to ask for, so you stay silent and suffer quietly just to keep them from leaving.
And that's what hurts the most: constantly trying to understand someone else's wounds while your own heart is slowly falling apart. 💔
2026-06-15 03:16:48