Ifedayo Agoro
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Ms.Oltoms • Self-Worth Mentor :
While I understand your point, Aunty Ife, I understand her perspective as well. Growing up, I watched a number of women, including my mum, carry the weight of the home almost entirely on their shoulders. In some cases, their husbands became comfortable because they felt, "She's capable, she's handling it. My dad left his job to go into full-time ministry, and I watched my mum struggle to keep everything together. There were times she couldn't meet up financially, and as a family we experienced lack, hunger, and even periods when school fees became a challenge. I stay at home for five years after secondary school become we couldn't afford to register me for Jamb. I can hear myself in her voice "I will not spoil him"(it means I won't let him get comfortable with me taking his role). I actually think my mum spoilt my dad, she made him comfortable with not providing. I think those experiences shaped me deeply. So while I understand the place of support in a relationship, I also find myself very cautious about stepping into responsibilities that I believe belong to a man. Perhaps it's a trauma response, and I'm still healing from it. I've grown a lot, but I don't think those experiences will ever completely leave me. By the way, your voice sounds like you might be coming down with a cold. Please take care of yourself, Aunty mi ❤️
2026-06-10 14:05:02
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Queenzhair :
She has a point.Most men gets relaxed if the woman steps in to provide.They happily leave everything to you to handle.
2026-06-10 17:03:30
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danom_ :
gats be ragebait 😂😂
2026-06-10 19:19:04
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learnenglishonlinewithch :
It’s a trauma she is reacting to.
2026-06-10 12:16:00
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Mmaranking :
To be honest, most men get comfortable when you show them you can carry the family in their lack. They stop making efforts and start lying about not having cause you’re doing everything.. it’s not about lack of love, it’s something a pattern people have seen growing up and don’t want same to happen in their home… it’s gets bad when the woman becomes wicked towards the man.
2026-06-10 13:14:31
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Winifred Chioma Egeonu :
The lady is dealing with childhood trauma. she needs healing, unlearning and relearning.
2026-06-10 13:20:38
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Best cake in Agric, Ikorodu :
I stepped in for 5 years when my husband lost his job and today im a princess in his life.
2026-06-10 13:07:07
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ABDULSAMAD :
He provides I will provide too you'll never hear but If he cheated I will cheat too... 💯
2026-06-10 17:09:42
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🌊💙DebbieCelebrity :
Sister Ife, you sound like you were under the weather when you did this voice over. If that's correct, trust you're perfect at the time you see this comment. Loves ❤️
2026-06-10 12:19:49
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Mz_Rose :
Dear ify, you voice sounds like you are having cold, get well soon. Not trying to overstep, just someone that cares
2026-06-10 11:57:35
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Abraham Adewolu Consulting :
thank God for the woman i have, i have been broke since may now as the financial institutions i work for didn't give us job recently, she starts paying the bills since then, even though she's writing my debts down and she knows I'll surely pay all when i bounce back. i am tired right now. not even 500 in all my account😥
2026-06-10 18:39:04
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Queen Sapphire🥰 :
It's a trauma response, trust me💔😌
2026-06-10 13:24:28
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Ivie 🤍 :
Is she okay sha? This mindset is wrong on so many levels. I pray we all get the kind of partners we deserve. Kindness and consideration are forms of love, and they shouldn’t be treated as optional extras or reward in a healthy relationship.
2026-06-10 17:41:34
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Tori's :
Entitlement mindset is a bastard.
2026-06-10 11:55:53
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Ogoon :
🙆🏾♂️😮The comment section is crazy. We are in a fucking crazy world. May God help us all mehn
2026-06-10 17:44:39
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kalu Priscilla onyiyechi :
This is my mom any time my dad doesn’t have she eats outside and come back like nothing we all be hungry if our dad doesn’t have then every one stays hungry
2026-06-10 18:46:41
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ỌMỌ̀ÀGBẸ̀LẸ̀SẸ̀BÍỌBA 👑 :
I’ll not blame or judge her !!!!! It is well
2026-06-10 14:21:51
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PRESH/ OWERRI RTW VENDOR :
I'm not gonna blame the woman because with the current things that are happening now every woman is just trying to be careful yes I have a sister that something like this happened to she took up the family responsibility she was shouldering the children's school fees, children's clothes, food everything, she even borrowed loan and gave to her husband to help him start over again with his business, and she was the one also paying for the loan, but little did she know that her husband has bounced back the man has started making money but he was hiding it from her she never knew what was going on until the day she was with her husband and credit alert enter the man's phone the husband quickly deleted the alert that was when she noticed that something was wrong and that very day she stopped taking care of the home children's school fees and everything shockingly the man started shouldering his responsibilities immediately like immediately so I'm not going to blame the woman she's the one living with the husband she knows the man character she knows what he can do and what he cannot do so I think she knows him very well and she just trying to protect herself that's all.
2026-06-10 15:34:50
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Selina :
This is my earnest prayer everyday…to love my husband unconditionally cos he is a good man.
2026-06-10 13:54:13
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NAIL TECH IN AKOBO IBADAN ✰ :
What if the only thing the man ever did was provide.
2026-06-10 12:52:16
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Rekpene :
This topic is more complicated than we think. Most marital issues are deeper than we can fathom. Every time we look at marriage issues on the surface level, we most often than not miss the point. When a man sells provision to his wife as the most important part of his duty it is difficult to come to his rescue because that is his point of dignity if a woman takes that away she will pay for it. We may see it as punishment because that is not how it works in our household but we also need to understand that different rules work in different households. Just as you watch your child fall and still watch that child struggle to make it up by he's on herself doesn't mean you love the child any less. It means you are giving that child the space to figure it out while making sure the child is in a safe environment. it is not rooted in wickedness it is rooted in respect for boundaries. Let us not be too quick to label a situation we do not have total clearance. The fact that we think something is one way, doesn't always make us correct. My 2cent
2026-06-10 18:55:20
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Gracie🍒 :
God bless my mom, my dad told me he doesn’t know where he will be without my mom..he told me how she assisted him in getting to NPF, he built their first house in the village because of her, even when other wives won’t follow their husbands to the farm, my mom will and when harvest comes they will harvest more than everybody in the family and till date i see how my mom keeps assisting my dad , at first I taught she was not wise cause she never hides her money from my dad , umm until I go to other people’s homes and then i realize my mom is everything any man will pray for…
2026-06-10 19:18:00
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LadyB :
not all men appreciate that season when the woman carries all talking from a bitter experience though
2026-06-10 17:16:21
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