@firsttimeonearth0: “you used to be nice, oh god maybe you never used to be” Performative niceness is always something I see through. I would rather someone be upfront, set boundaries even if it came out harsh because at least it’s honest. I find myself gravitating to those people. #genz #selfreminder #advice #motivation #thoughts
unfortunately when you feel kindness so deeply and truly in your bones you feel betrayal and out of place as much
2026-06-12 00:14:33
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Henry :
are you a November Scorpio
2026-06-12 09:11:59
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Samuel :
nice does not = kind
2026-06-15 03:51:47
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laborimami24 :
And there’s a HUGE difference
2026-06-12 04:37:23
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.json :
I’d argue the opposite. The beauty of kindness is that everyone has it within them, from birth, we can be kind, should we be raised in the environment it breeds. It is there, waiting for you to discover it
2026-06-12 12:36:40
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Claud Cabrera :
“To be genuine is to be kind”
2026-06-13 19:13:36
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Tootsiebootsie29 :
Kindness is a gift from Allah swt. ❤️
2026-06-13 16:58:32
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Lãfirétte :
kindness is a muscle, of course it can be taught. But it needs consistency, to make sure that muscle stay strong, no one is born kind.
2026-06-12 11:34:45
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waina :
being genuinely kind is something you have to be careful with these days. sometimes, it only ends up hurting you. that’s why I think it’s enough to just be nice. being genuinely kind can be exhausting too. I believe most people are naturally kind, but after certain experiences, they learn to put up boundaries. they realize that simply being nice is enough. and honestly, that’s okay. sometimes being nice is all you can give without losing yourself in the process.
2026-06-13 05:57:13
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˚₊‧꒰ა 𓂋 ໒꒱ ‧₊˚ :
Everything can be taught, trust me.
2026-06-13 16:31:11
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L :
Not kindness - it’s empathy that can’t be taught
2026-07-12 22:47:38
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Milo :
I think everyone has kindness, it just expresses differently on everyone given their upbringing and environment that can affect if they show it more deeply or not at all
2026-06-14 03:52:23
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hannah꩜ :
you are so well-spoken ❤️
2026-06-11 15:49:42
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✨itsb✨ :
Because kindness can’t be faked
2026-06-14 01:52:45
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macy.lisaa :
I love the way your brain works
2026-06-12 01:24:17
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Benjamin Perez :
people always confuse kindness with nice. Nice is an action and Kindness is a genuine character trait.
2026-06-12 05:06:30
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Réka ☽ :
i HEAVILY agree with this statement
2026-06-25 06:59:41
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Mariamka :
Your point of view is very interesting, yet I lowk disagree. First of all, I think kindness is learnt. We are born with innate capacity for empathy, compassion and even genuineness. The environment that an individual grows up in is what eventually fills or drains the ability to be kind. So in my point of view, to assume that kindness is innate is a bit ignorant. We never really know what an individual has gone through or is going through. It’s a bit egocentric and intolerant to assume that if the person doesn’t immediately appear genuine to you, they’re unkind. In this case then, you literally deprive them of any opportunity to learn or display kindness under the heavy label. In the end, i believe that 99% of “unkind” people can become kind given the right environment. We might not be all be able to connect, but the lack of connection should not give us privilege to label each other “unkind” forever
2026-06-13 02:27:23
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lou lou :
kindness is innate, no matter how harsh life may beat them down
2026-06-14 01:19:17
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JDD :
Finally someone said it 😭❤️
2026-06-12 00:54:51
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Xenia :
It sounds to me like the distinction you're making is between niceness (a conditional warmth and generosity) and kindness (an unconditional and therefore genuine warmth and generosity).
I'd be interested to know more about how the valuation of kindness, niceness, and conditionality may figure when situated in a world where the humanity, dignity, wellbeing, and flourishing of people is viciously conditional.
2026-06-12 12:36:46
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eynja1 :
Don’t mistake niceness for kindness
2026-06-17 15:12:24
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cio :
I do think that kindness is a sign of high intelligence
2026-06-15 06:44:59
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olfa🦋✨ :
It's genuine honestly ❤️I used to think anyone who's nice is also kind but the older I get the more I understand it's totally different, being a kind person is just natural, its so genuine. being nice is just choosing to be nice but not necessarily kind.
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