Kina Wolfenstein
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Friday 12 June 2026 22:55:42 GMT
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nya :
it’s lazy therapy. Like putting on a bandaid without fixing the core problem. My last therapist actually traumatized me more by invalidating my experiences as the scapegoat of my family. I’m at the point where even the thought of being vulnerable with anyone is agonizing
2026-06-12 23:56:04
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MissEncore :
Mine talks about herself. We haven’t gone into my issues at all.
2026-06-12 23:44:17
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⚢ everett 𐔌՞. .՞𐦯 :
in my 10~ years of therapy, my reqvtion has always been "stop giving me new skills to try for fucks sake" because the skills dont work if they're not on a foundation of ANY stability!!
2026-06-13 08:24:15
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Shaz Crafts (Life_Is_Swell) :
this is when the therapist needs to realise the person needs a person centred approach rather than a cbt style, initially anyway. i don't need to be changed i need my experience and existence validated.
2026-06-12 23:43:23
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Shirley Marie :
Telling clients it's okay to be whatever they are (sad, depressed, self-loathing) is such a game changer but it's considered so radical
2026-06-13 00:18:36
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agorafoliage 🇨🇦 :
I found both CBT and DBT to be wildly invalidating and at points actually enraging. not just the process but the way so many therapists apply it like a stamp with no regard for what the surface looks like. often there's almost an outright dismissal of lived reality.
2026-06-12 23:42:35
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Sophia 🤪 :
Therapist in training here! How did you become so educated on this topic? CPTSD, chronic emotional neglect, and most trauma-informed modalities have sadly not made their way into CMHC curriculum yet, but I want to learn!!
2026-06-13 00:35:15
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Alyssa :
I am loving this entire series. Your one of the most educated people I’ve listened to on this topic
2026-06-12 23:05:16
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Izzles ✨ :
Years ago, I had a counsellor through an SA survivor charity who would challenge me on my perspective on my parents less-than-perfect behaviour EVERY time I brought it up. I stopped going after two sessions and in hindsight this might've been why.
2026-06-13 07:09:04
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Innywon :
YES! Thank you for this language. That explains every experience I’ve had with a therapist. I’ve never gotten to fully unmask and feel safe in therapy.
2026-06-13 00:01:34
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JellyfishSlap :
I told one therapist about a type of abuse I experienced as a child and the ways that shows up in my life as an adult as some pretty specific fears. Her response was “well that’s not statistically likely so it’s nothing to be afraid of.” It absolutely felt like the invalidation I got from my family.
2026-06-13 03:16:51
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gracendignity :
omg, yes! it will never not be weird to me for a therapist to be unable to just hold space while somebody just let’s go…for once. It is just an immediate avalanche of coping strategies and maybe you need medication. NO! None of those are helpful for people who were never allowed to experience the full range of normal human emotions. Most therapist are completely uncomfortable with their clients’ discomfort. It’s weird and it’s potentially harmful
2026-06-13 00:31:02
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Nichell :
I literally articulated this to my therapist a few weeks ago! I told her that her attempt might be that she’s trying to reframe to make me feel better, but instead it invalidates my feelings and makes me feel like I “shouldn’t” feel how I’m feeling, or I’m not supposed to feel how I feel, and it makes me feel worse. Alone.
2026-06-13 01:59:59
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lyx :
this is absolutely what happened to me 😭 15 yrs of on and off therapy made me worse, not better, than I started off being. ive stopped seeking help bc all I've found is harm from professionals 😮💨 I hope someday it becomes the norm for therapists to be educated on working w trauma
2026-06-12 23:16:23
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Moons17 :
Thank you for including regulating specifically. Even though my therapist is amazing, we have only a few regulation techniques we use during session and we always check in before using them because so many are triggering for me.
2026-06-12 23:15:11
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Meow :
What books do you suggest that go into this more?
2026-06-13 00:57:16
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Julia :
My therapist is doing a really good job with this! It's really hard for me, but we are using parts work and somatic experiencing therapy, and it does make a difference. it's been slow progress though. I had a rough evening with loneliness and anxiety the other night, and was intentionally distracting myself so I didn't have to feel my actual feelings and like, cry. It didn't even occur to me until the morning that I could have chosen to actually feel my feelings of sadness, and it might have helped. But I also am glad it occurred to me that I could handle that situation differently next time.
2026-06-13 07:58:26
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Torchy (he/they) :
I think this is why I struggled so much in ED treatment. It only focused on coping like I could never work through why I have the ED cause the providers were only talking about coping and would cut me off when I brought up emotions or how I would go from emotion to behavior. I had to leave for the sake of my mental health cause it was so damaging and I haven't talked about my ED again since
2026-06-13 07:26:30
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Dani Cushman :
I have a really hard time in traditional therapy. Talking about the trauma or even trying to remember the trauma leaves me leaving the office angrier than when I arrived.
2026-06-13 04:27:09
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Jazz Vida :
Yep. It’s totally invalidating. Sometimes the intervention is just holding space without trying to make it better or fix it in some way.
2026-06-13 02:11:40
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willapen 🍉 :
how does one find therapists who get this?
2026-06-13 02:09:00
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Elle :
This explains so much of when I’ve not aligned with therapists or been retraumatized in therapy
2026-06-12 23:57:26
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Penny Lane 🏴☠️ :
Why I quit therapy
2026-06-13 00:51:37
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SomeGirlinVermont :
Yeah, I’ve never been more grateful for a therapist who hasn’t tried to “fix” how I feel, especially because feeling anything besides numb has been complicated for me.
2026-06-13 01:36:23
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Fluffin Goodbite :
Holy cow, I went to therapy at 38, I thought finally, I can share my experiences of being physically abused by my sibling and neglected by my parents. I was always taught to ignore and move on. My therapist told me that we didn’t need to re hash anything, just worry about how we see handling our lives now…. That was tough.
2026-06-13 05:04:53
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