@tamilaakalthanesh: Why people keep disappointing you — and how to stop expecting so much. Most of your anger isn't caused by what people did. It's caused by a contract you signed in your own head — and never told them about. You expected them to text back the way you would. To say "I'm proud of you" the way you'd say it. To love the way you love. But they were never living by your values. They were living by theirs. Dr. John Demartini calls it the hierarchy of values — everyone has their own, and their behaviour always makes sense through their eyes, not yours. The Stoics said the same thing 2,000 years ago: control your choices, release everything else. And the same trap turns inward. "I should have a house by 30." "I should always be disciplined." You compare the real you to a perfect version that doesn't exist — and lose to it every single day. That's the heaviness. The way out isn't lowering your standards. It's this: expect people to be who they already are. Expect yourself to be human. People aren't disappointing you. Your imagination is. Save this for the next time someone "lets you down." 🤍 — From Survival to Thrival #expectations #stoicism #selfawareness #demartini #emotionalmastery