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Kb30 :
Honestly the hardest part for me was not other peoples pregnancies it was people constantly comparing every aspect of my life by saying ‘yeah well it’s different when you have kids’
2026-06-25 07:18:22
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Emma Knight :
Ngl I feel like I’m the slightly bitter infertile friend. There’s nothing more that I want than a baby, I cry about it all the time while my health is getting worse and screaming infertile. I also feel like my multiple conditions and mental illnesses do make this worse too. I’m not mean and I’m not the worst with this, but when I’m alone at home I do get angry inside about my friends with babies/toddlers or the constant pregnancy announcements on fb. I don’t take it out on anyone at all, but I’m just internally angry, and it sucks :(
2026-06-13 22:16:59
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Donna June :
I had a co worker reach out to give me a heads up she was pregnant before her announcement so I would be prepared in front of everyone for the reveal. A COWORKER. It was so heart felt and I’ll never forget it. It also made me realize if a co worker can care that much so can a family member or close friend 🥰 we are allowed to be happy for them and sad for us at the same time. Being a decent human to anyone, let alone a loved one, is completely free.
2026-06-14 03:05:10
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Kylesha Shelmidine :
My BIL and SIL did a giant announcement with the whole family. On Christmas morning. Knowing that we’ve been struggling for years. Absolutely ruined our Christmas. Then took the name we wanted (they knew) 🫠🫠
2026-06-16 23:47:25
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Becca Anne :
My best friend got pregnant again 4 months postpartum and told me before her husband and had a complete breakdown. knowing I've had losses and the kast year haven't gotten 1 positive test. telling me she doesnt know what to do and doesnt want another baby right now. I supported her, I told her I'd support the decision she makes and understand she's stressed. But I also had to tell her I was unfortunately not the person to run this by and everything baby related should currently go to her sister. i love her, I'm happy for her but I am currently so so mad I cant get pregnant and its leading me to be a bad friend
2026-08-10 21:34:20
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Sliebers1212 :
As the friend struggling, if that's something my friend truly doesn't care to be sensitive about, I'd rethink my ability to be friends with them during this season of life. Of course I'm happy for my friends but I also need to process this on my own time.
2026-06-14 23:16:58
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Nicole :
The ability to hold nuance is just a lost art on the internet it seems. You’re better than me trying to address this lol.
2026-06-14 02:51:01
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louisianadoods :
My friend lost her father tragically. Do I stop celebrating Father’s Day or never talk about my dad? No. But do I take the time to send her a little message on Father’s Day that I’m thinking about her and how great her dad was to all of us? Yes. Did I choose another bridesmaids to run father/daughter dance ideas by for my wedding? Yes. Will never understand those that don’t want to have empathy for their friends.
2026-08-07 18:20:24
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Hannaaakate :
After loosing 6 babies myself (many late term losses), I’ve been sensitive to friend I know going through infertility now I’m 36 weeks, I’ve held her hand at her appointments while I’m carrying, I’ve told her she can scream at me if it makes her feel better. I always try to be mindful of people who could be going through the same when I post etc, but after all our losses I don’t want to ignore my excitement for acquaintances.
2026-06-15 21:55:32
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Natmcd1130 :
My friend and I were 4 weeks apart, both expecting little girls. Hers didn’t make it halfway through her pregnancy. It has changed our friendship and how often we see each other, but I know it’s only for a season, she asks about my baby, which I can only imagine is hard for her. I try to extend myself in ways that remind her that her loss and pain are not forgotten 💔 I think consideration and extending grace and thoughtfulness on both ends is what can allow the pain and celebration to be honest
2026-06-14 11:43:54
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Bluebeard :
I struggled with infertility for a long time and am currently pregnant so I've been on both sides of this. My approach is that anyone who I have discussed infertility/loss with absolutely gets my consideration (i.e. not telling them about my pregnancy in person / in front of other people / in scenarios where they can't remove themselves from the situation to process etc.), it's really not hard or "dimming my happiness" AT ALL. I *know* they are going to be happy for me, just like I was SO HAPPY for my friends who got pregnant while I was struggling - their happiness didn't affect my chances of happiness and I wanted MY baby, not theirs, I just wasn't always respond appropriately right on the moment unless I had some time to prepare because it shone a light on my own struggle. Equally, I always showed up to the baby showers / christenings etc. and celebrated my friends' pregnancies and babies even though it hurt a bit sometimes - I had time to process my feelings and I owe it to my friends to support them even when maybe I'd selfishly prefer not to (same as how I would celebrate a friend's promotion even if I recently got laid off, or their engagement even if I just got dumped) - and I'd expect the same from them. People seem to struggle with nuance but it's actually not hard AT ALL to grant your closest friends some grace to process news that might be hard for them to hear in a way that makes it easier for them to do THEIR part and celebrate your news once they've had some time to regroup. A bit of give and take, no?
2026-06-14 18:15:38
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Bree Sherr :
Four years into infertility, and I’ve always said that it’s sweet when people are sensitive, but when they’re not, I’ve always assumed the best and that they just don’t realize. And honestly? I’m happy that they don’t understand this! I don’t want this for them and I’m glad they get to be in this happy bubble! Sensitivity is not a requirement for me, though always appreciated❤️The truth is, their baby and my infertility are in no way related, even if it can feel that way. And those hard emotions I save for at home with my husband, sister, or mom. My hope is that some day, I’ll be on the other side of this journey and have zero regrets because I fully celebrated the pregnant women around me🥹
2026-06-13 18:55:26
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analeigh warwick :
As someone who is pregnant with our first baby via IVF after almost 2.5 years of infertility— I am SOOOO insanely aware and almost self conscious about how we approach sharing our pregnancy bc I know how freaking HARD it is to be around pregnant people who just want to talk abt pregnancy. It’s SUCH a hard line to walk but so glad to see you approaching this topic!!!🤍
2026-08-01 22:25:12
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Mxt Ghouist :
Also don't act like your friend is less deserving of their pregnancy because they didn't struggle/ got pregnant unintentionally/ any other variable.
2026-08-07 10:35:11
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Elizabeth :
Yea the people that I knew were walking through infertility got a text from me that we were pregnant. Not a phone call, not a meeting, I wanted them to be able to have a genuine reaction and not have to manage their emotions for my benefit.
2026-06-14 17:58:25
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yeehawmc0 :
I’m pregnant and have a 8 month old. One of my best friends just heard that she is not allowed to have kids. We talk about it. “Is it okay to talk about the kids” and it’s okay for her to to tell me it’s a bad time!!!
2026-06-15 18:00:33
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Belle :
Me and my husband have been on a 10 year infertility journey. Days after one of the most devestating days of our journey yet this year, my sister announced her pregnancy. (This is also the first grand baby on my side of the family). The way that she took the time to decide if a text or call or video or in person announcement would be most sensitive to my situation before even celebrating herself. She ended up deciding that a text would not do our relationship justice, that a call and in person would catch me too off guard but a video would still allow me to hear her words, but take my own time processing this news. This allowed me to now be celebrating her in a way I didn’t believe I was capable BECAUSE of the sensitivity she gave me when sharing this news. One month later, my 1 year older than me brother announced his wife was also pregnant. (As you can imagine, I felt like life was really playing a joke on me). All this to be said, the sensitivity is sometimes the very thing needed for your friend going through deep loss to feel seen enough, and then will have the ability to step into a role of being there for you too.
2026-06-13 20:00:45
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Saskia :
I have this situation right now, my friend is struggling and i am pregnant. But i feel like a text beforehand would make her even more sad because i assume she has a problem with me being pregnant. I decided to tell her alone in person with another friend who already knows, so not the big friend group event 🙈 what do you think?
2026-06-14 10:30:10
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RosieRaee :
I spent 6 years struggling with fertility, in that time I experienced 5 losses. The only time announcements upset me is if it was someone I genuinely didn't like. Otherwise they didn't bother me, I'm too busy being happy for them.
2026-08-07 01:07:06
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Grayce 🇳🇿 :
I've been struggling with infertility for nearly two years, suddenly got pregnant when trialing a fertility med. Messaged my friend who is also struggling with it, as soon as I got the faintest positive and we held our breath together. I'm now 9 weeks, and I'm struggling with how much i talk to her about, I don't want to make things harder for her. But also I never thought I could have kids so I'm extremely overjoyed. I cried when my other friends got pregnant and announced it. I was super happy for them, but also devastated. so many mixed emotions
2026-07-12 03:22:35
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Sav, Newt, Sasha & Brutus :
I sent a heads up text to my very close friend to let her know we were going to announce at a party, and to give her the space to process and be there if she wanted to be. I honestly wasn’t sure what the best thing to do was.
2026-06-14 16:27:00
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Heather Brown :
My best friend got pregnant on accident meanwhile my husband and I were going on year 4 of trying and being told IVF was our next option. I never asked her to dim her excitement and she checked in with me through the whole pregnancy to make sure it wasn’t too much on me and that I didn’t need a step back. While I planned and threw her baby shower too. I say all of this to say we all just need compassion and empathy for each other. Was I sad at times, absolutely but I knew the only thing making me sad was something she has absolutely no control over. Trust me if she did I would be a mom of 21 lol
2026-07-17 05:13:43
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Yoshi & Lakitu the tiny dinos :
Completely agree. Going through my infertility journey now and all I want from my mates is a heads up like you said for any group announcements but also understanding that there's something's I can't attend like shopping for baby clothes with them. I would never expect anyone to dim their joy for me but I would like to think they can be patient when there's things I need to avoid for self preservation.
2026-06-15 15:25:15
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Rachel-Claire :
Yes! I ask friends this for THEIR sake. If you spring a pregnancy announcement on me when I'm having a bad day, I WILL cry. I'm going through hell. It's not something I can control. The Walmart baby aisle makes me cry. But if you give me a text heads up, I can put myself in the headspace to be the happy and supportive friend they deserve. I WANT to be that friend because that's who I am, but I do have bad days and the heads up helps a lot.
2026-06-16 21:13:58
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