The Grant Queen
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Saturday 13 June 2026 22:26:48 GMT
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SHENEKA ADAMS 🐉 :
I can’t be friends with women with kids, and vice versa. And there’s nothing wrong with that at all, it’s just two different worlds that sometimes don’t need to collide.
2026-06-14 20:24:59
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therealldestinie :
If you’re constantly not showing up for them then they have all rights to take a step back from you
2026-06-14 20:52:29
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lextherapy :
The problem is it’s usually not a “right now” thing… it’s usually a “this is how my life is now” thing. Yall tend to forget that people who don’t have kids also go through things and still show up for yall. So my question is: how come you can choose yourself but your childless friends can’t choose themselves after feeling abandoned by you? 😂🤨
2026-06-15 00:48:36
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Shay :
it seems like when women get married & have kids, they only want to be a friend when it’s convenient. I don’t think a friend expecting you to show up for them is entitlement or selfish. That’s what friends are supposed to do for each other. But i also believe a friend should/would understand why you can’t. I don’t think either view is wrong.
2026-06-14 23:11:35
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Highly protected Denise :
Did they show up for you when you needed them to? If they did then yes you’re wrong, if not then you’re not wrong. Bottom line friendship can’t be one sided.
2026-06-14 14:13:55
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TJ 💋 :
One or two times is ok but if you never show up, move around 🤷🏾♀️
2026-06-14 18:30:00
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Keayni :
The problem is “you know I’m a good person at heart”, I found that people who say that are usually the ones who show up when it’s convenient or everything’s good and they leverage that to really believe that’s all they need to do to be a good friend. But I personally show up even when I don’t feel like it especially if it’s important. Unless I physically can’t, I still show up because honestly actually showing up would probably help push through whatever mental health issue currently happening. Life is always going to life, we can’t just only show up for people when everything’s peachy for us, how would that work vice versa?
2026-06-14 14:20:18
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.concrete.rose :
You’re not wrong. They just were never your true friend and they’re selfish
2026-06-13 23:25:35
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BB :
Depends on how many times you’re doing it. Not equally yoked friendships just don’t work for some people.
2026-06-14 21:11:08
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My spam account 😛 :
True, but at the same time, other people have the right to let go of what’s not serving them. So if a friend isn’t showing up for me the way I’d like, I’m out. That’s me choosing me, and I have that right! I’ll never make a big deal about it, though—I’ll just quietly remove you.
2026-06-14 15:39:56
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栄光の少女🪷 :
as long as you communicated it should be respected!
2026-06-14 00:25:31
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Jes | faith • lifestyle :
It's worse when you communicate it & they refuse to understand. Now you're cut off. BYE!
2026-06-14 00:35:00
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MissLowKey💕 :
Honestly, it depends so if they show up no matter what they have going on no excuses and you don't show up cause you have excuses YES Your cut off! Not saying your excuses or reasons aren't valid but you have to show up for who show up for you.. especially if they told you in advance and it also depends on what the event is, engagement proposal, graduation party, funeral of a immediately family, baby shower, birthday is IMPORTANT. Anything outside of that cookout, kids first birthday ( if you don't have kids) girls night etc it's okay not to show up.
2026-06-15 01:00:25
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Awonderful1908 :
We can’t really give our POV cause we are only getting your perspective. Playing devils advocate, it’s probably something more and this was the final straw. Like, if that was a friend friend then I’m pretty certain it wasn’t solely about you missing one event…. From experience.
2026-06-14 16:58:02
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misstayy4 :
This is not an issue. The issue is only when a person has never shown up or cared to.
2026-06-14 10:05:49
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Bre | Destination Specialist :
You’re not wrong. Especially when you gave prior notice. They’re just weird
2026-06-13 22:31:48
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Tootie_C :
Can’t be every time though.
2026-06-15 00:48:03
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Jojo :
I don't agree with cutting people off for anything because coming to some type of understanding is apart of love. However....if it's a pattern we can just downgrade to associates
2026-06-15 00:45:47
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BlazeTrades :
Chilleee… very entitled… very inauthentic… very selfish 💕 been through this and i move accordingly now
2026-06-14 13:56:53
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desember.luvee :
You don't owe anyone an explanation. I don't understand this entitlement people have over their friends. I've had to tell several "friends" in my past that I AM NOT THEIR MAN. This is why I no longer allow people close to me. I keep everyone at a distance so that there are no obligations on my end or theirs. I'll talk to you when I talk to you, I'll see you when I see you.
2026-06-13 23:36:48
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AngieReal1 :
You not wrong
2026-06-13 22:52:32
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Neshia | BeauMonde :
And you know what sis….that’s their business. Let them step aside.
2026-06-13 22:32:31
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Sabrina Ali :
There are people who are “there for you” when it doesn’t involve them having to physically be there. When it’s time to show up, there’s an excuse. Unfortunately, when you choose to be apart of community, you have to be selfless. That’s the unwritten part of the contract. Be selfish or selfless. You can’t be either when you feel
2026-06-14 22:58:24
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Kellie :
My friend of 20+ years is married and had kids later than me in life. I travel for a living and for fun. She can’t participate in certain activities or go on trips because of her situation. My child is grown and I’m single it’s two different worlds but we show up atleast twice a year for each other’s birthdays and call or text. I have other single no kid friends I travel with. Categorize your friends is an option.
2026-06-14 23:31:47
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