@the_control_code: He hit her until she couldn’t leave. Then we called it her choice. There’s a group of people with more brain injuries than every NFL player and combat veteran combined. They’re not athletes. They’re not soldiers. They’re women — and we never once looked at their brains. We built a whole science to protect men’s heads: helmets, baseline testing, concussion protocols, hearings in Congress. The people with more of those injuries than all of it combined get no protocol, no baseline, not one screening question. So the injury goes unfound — and that same injury steals the exact machinery leaving requires: memory, planning, follow-through. He breaks the escape route from the inside. Two cages. One built around her, one built into her. Then we ask why she didn’t just go. Don’t take my word for it. Look it up. Researchers Lifshitz, Crabtree-Nelson and Kozlowski estimate women sustain eleven to twelve times more brain injuries from partner violence than soldiers and athletes combined — about 1.6 million a year in American women alone. The Ohio State and Ohio Domestic Violence Network study found 81 percent of survivors seeking help had a head injury. Dr. Kristen Dams-O’Connor at Mount Sinai autopsied the brains and found damage that may be at least as disabling as a football or combat injury. She’s the one who said a woman who stays may simply not have the brain function left to plan her way out — and newer research from Makovec Knight finds those same changes raise the risk of even more abuse. #thecontrolcode #coercivecontrol #domesticviolenceawareness #narcissisticabuse #thatsmywhy

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