‎You know what? In a relationship, communication is indeed important, but isn't it also unnecessary for us to force ourselves to tell our partners everything we go through? Like, sure, by sharing it, it means we trust them and maybe hope they understand our condition, but I feel that by telling them, it's the same as forcing ourselves to remember the bad things we've experienced, and in the end, instead of being happy sharing it, we just end up in more pain because we are reminded of it all over again. Moreover, we also don't know how our partner will react because they might not like dark stories, they might avoid us because they feel uncomfortable after hearing it, or other things. In the end, what happens? Most likely, it will just ruin our trust and our relationship. I know not everyone does that, maybe many would also comfort us or just stay by our side, but still, in the end, we don't know what our partner truly feels and will do when they hear about our problems. And also, when we don't tell them our problems, it doesn't mean we don't trust them or anything like that, but because we are just afraid (I know it could be called cowardly), but what's wrong with that? In the end, all we need is time to gather the courage to tell our problems. ‎ ‎I once heard someone say, "Maybe you just needed a break. It sounds to me like you put a lot of pressure on yourself to be there for everyone, and when you're not, you beat yourself up for it. The way I see it, relationships are two-sided, and sometimes it doesn't make sense to do all the heavy lifting when the other isn't in the mood. We all go through and deal with things differently, and sometimes you just need to let people do things their own way. As long as you're still there when they need you, giving someone space should never be the same as giving up on them. There are always ways to show you care without ruining yourself over it. You need to look out for yourself in all this, too." ‎ ‎And this quote fits perfectly with Eunhyeok and Soo-ae's situation at that time. As a teenager, Eunhyeok prioritized other people over himself because back then, he was taking care of his mother, had to follow Raim's wishes (and even that was out of guilt), face his father, look after Soo-ae from before they were dating until they were dating, and so much more. At that time, the only thing on my mind was that he had never truly thought about himself; he always bottled up his own feelings, bottled up his own suffering, and even when his hearing got worse, no one was by his side, and in the end, he bore it all alone. Even when he finally wanted to tell Soo-ae about his problems, he ended up getting rejected because Soo-ae didn't know what to say, and in my opinion, that was wrong. Because according to that person's words earlier, as a partner, best friend, or family, we should listen to and comfort that person. In fact, even if we don't know what to say at that moment, isn't it enough to just stay by their side so they know we are there and they are not alone? If we run away, it's the same as saying that we don't want to listen to them, and that's not a good thing in a relationship and just ends up badly. That's why when Eunhyeok left Korea, I think that was his only action at the time that truly thought about himself for the first time, because even though it was wrong and he regrets his actions, at the very least, he saved himself from everything that made him suffer. So the point is, in their relationship, if we look at it from each of their perspectives, we might think one of them is wrong, but if we read it from a third-party perspective, don't we know that what's wrong is the timing, the situation, and both of those people? #fyp #operationtruelove #manhwa #goeunhyuk #shimsooae - @tootluvzz