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Bella Gabriel☦️ :
I think if you need space during an argument then you NEED to communicate that "I'm going to step away to collect my thoughts but just know that I love you and I want to work this out" or something like that
2026-06-16 14:10:45
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linamaneshh :
The moment someone needs “space” after every difficult conversation, the relationship stops feeling safe and starts feeling lonely. 💔
2026-06-16 14:04:42
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a flat circle :
Of course this can be true, but therapy will also teach you some people shut down emotionally and are not doing a silent treatment out of malicious behavior, both are very different and can’t be discovered without communication.
2026-06-16 03:52:38
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sar :
I disagree. Taking space after conflict is not emotional abuse. Refusing to communicate, withholding affection as punishment, or leaving your partner in limbo indefinitely can be. Healthy relationships need both partners to respect each other's coping styles while still providing reassurance and eventually coming back to resolve the issue.
2026-06-16 22:59:42
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t 🫧 :
he's doing this to me rn. we havent talked for over 24 hrs
2026-06-16 04:05:37
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mars :
he left me alone for 5 days when all I needed was him, so I blocked him.
2026-06-16 09:18:16
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kate :
It’s so hurtful
2026-06-16 02:12:53
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jessiGirl :
what does “disappearing” mean in this context ? because there’s a spectrum here - because like, yes if they intentionally don’t talk to you for days after a disagreement, sure. but if it’s like, two or three hours, or the rest of the day it’s not abuse it’s maladaptive. and in the middle it’s extremely healthy to take necessary space during conflict. demanding someone to stay present when you lash out at them is also abusive. it demonizes avoidant attachment while dismissing, trivializing, and normalizing anxious attachment.
2026-06-16 06:40:46
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Rodeo_Galaxy :
The thing is you can take space without disappearing. You communicate your need for space and make a plan to revisit the convo later so both parties are informed and no one is left absorbing emotional fallout.
2026-06-16 11:53:52
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mateo ` _ ´ ° _ ° + . + :
"How To Actually Attract by Rick Lewis" is one of the best I've ever read 🙌
2026-06-18 03:10:49
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Ecstasy Skyes :
Why are we acting like our way of dealing with arguments and disconnect is more superior to our partners. People are allowed to want or need space during or after heated moments... it should be communicated and there should always be a resolution but you dont get to go around acting some sort of moral highground bc your way of dealing with stress is closeness and reassurance thats selfish. The two need to be balanced.
2026-06-17 05:05:43
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MelaninMolasses :
As someone with abandonment wounds, I can say the silence after conflict can be incredibly painful. I don’t need immediate answers, but I do need communication and reassurance that we’re going to work through it together. 😞💔
2026-06-16 17:34:46
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Jem 🧜🏼♀️♒️ :
Communicating you need space is not abusive. Entitlement of someone’s processing/time needs is also abusive. Communication is key.
2026-06-16 23:05:27
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Alejandra Carreon :
I’m sorry but no, being forced to continue a conversation when you are triggered, angry and on edge is not the solution. I believe it’s completely healthy to take a second to breathe and collect yourself. Especially if you know you’re on the brink of saying something out of anger/frustration.
2026-06-20 05:31:20
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Jade Lynn 🪼🪲🦆 :
Stepping away to gather your thoughts is fine but like communicate that don’t just disappear or give the silent treatment.
2026-06-16 15:41:04
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adr1 :
I’ve reached a certain point where I’ve accepted everyone has a mixture of healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms in the face of conflict. And instead of wanting your partner to change, it’s best to date people that handle it the way that works for your nervous system. I respect those who want space after. I know I don’t need it as much as I prefer clarity. So I date clarity
2026-06-23 02:59:55
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saranya 🤍 :
Put this on his fyp
2026-06-16 06:57:05
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💐 :
my partner disappeared since 31 may 2026. we didn’t even fight… he just disappeared, he didn’t read my messages and i couldn’t reach him anywhere. i asked his friends and none knew. i am confused, lost, and hurt..
2026-06-17 15:22:28
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Star Vang :
I ask for space so I can gather my thoughts and not allow the argument to escalate in the heat of moment.
2026-06-16 13:36:53
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🤍 :
But yk while you may need closeness, they may need space. Its important to respect their needs too. I know it can be very difficult but sometimes its only 1-2 hours... neither partner should disregard the other nor abandon themself. As long as its not intentional or over a long duration, which it most likely wont be if they care about you and love you its okay really. Had to learn that or still actively trying to.
2026-06-16 11:10:22
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KosherTomfoolery :
if I tell you I need space, thats not abandoning you. but fine. ill stay. watch me become the worst version of myself because you cant handle being alone with your thoughts. that'll help us both rather than growing up and getting comfortable taking time and space and a break to breathe when things are tense.
2026-06-17 01:14:17
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egoistic
2026-06-16 06:14:38
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saltysuka1418 :
If you cannot handle your partner needing time and space to reflect and work through their own emotions, you might not be ready to be in a relationship. Conflict resolution isn’t always instantaneous. And sometimes no amount of talking about it then and there is going to help, people need to time to process and think, or you just end up going in circles half the time.
2026-06-20 06:10:30
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shenk.xis :
Disappearing after conflict can create anxiety, uncertainty, and feelings of abandonment. Those wounds are real and they shouldn’t be minimized. At the same time, not everyone who withdraws after an argument is trying to punish or manipulate their partner. Some people shut down because they’re emotionally overwhelmed, flooded, or afraid they’ll make things worse if they keep talking. The problem isn’t always the space itself. The problem is when the space comes with no communication, no reassurance, and no intention of returning to the conversation. There’s a big difference between “I need some time to process, but we’ll talk tomorrow” and disappearing indefinitely while your partner is left wondering where they stand. Healthy relationships make room for both needs: the need for space and the need for emotional safety.
2026-06-18 13:12:03
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