xoxo, cj •relationship burnout
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Emily B :
can you do a video on what emotional safety looks and sounds like?
2026-06-16 03:41:08
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leslie :
I am exhausted from trying to get my husband to see my reality. He is dedicated to protecting his view of himself rather than seeing the pain he causes. My nervous system is shutting down. I can't participate in any dynamic with him.
2026-06-17 12:25:23
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rose_unhinged :
My ex and I broke up a couple weeks ago after five years together. He’s been staying at his parents and I think they’ve been telling him more bad things about me and could ruin our chance at trying again in the future. They were part of the reason we broke up. They kept saying bad things about me when I didn’t do anything. Can it be possible to heal in the same space? We both are on the lease and we can’t afford to break it. I think it’s possible since I plan to work on myself and continue therapy. He thinks it won’t because he still thinks I’m going to try and be his gf. I don’t want that rn. I want both of us to heal and get better. And hopefully try again so we can both give each other the best versions of ourselves.
2026-06-16 01:42:38
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Juan Benitez :
Yeah, that’s great but what did you actually do?
2026-06-23 17:54:28
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MrHowland :
did you go through a period of I guess no contact or did you stay and talk still?
2026-06-16 16:10:11
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Corina Gallardo :
Is burnout the same as someone telling you they are not in love with you anymore?
2026-06-16 06:50:14
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elliequentqueen2019 :
What was it like moving back to the marital home? I assume that's what happened...
2026-06-17 16:00:44
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Stacie 🇺🇸🇵🇹🇫🇷 :
what if you barely see each other and he's gone every weekend at our camp?
2026-06-19 11:15:54
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Sauce Dude :
I told her maybe some distance and time would help regulate our nervous systems for this exact reason. And she told me she didn't need time or distance to know she wanted the divorce. I was trying to salvage and accommodate right up to the very end but that broke me.
2026-06-16 20:53:01
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Robb :
thank you I needed this
2026-06-16 06:49:18
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austrianimal :
All well and good, but the separation and space is much harder when there are children. Good luck with your future. I'm very happy for you both.
2026-06-16 17:42:10
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TrueCrimeZombie :
My husband walked out a week ago. Married 11 years, 3 young kids. He didn’t discuss he just left. Came to get the kids today and he already has his wedding ring off. I’m so broken
2026-07-10 18:14:44
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Cory Real :
What was the specific instance where you decided that you didn’t want to follow through with the divorce anymore? How do you approach that conversation?
2026-07-05 16:34:42
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AubreeHoneyJoy :
That's a privilege that some of us don't have. I would give anything to separate and heal but we can't afford to.
2026-06-17 19:58:22
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shan.t2015 :
I hope mine turns around and we can work things out she told me she needs time and space, I've been trying to respect that but it hurts and I love her and she loves me but she is hurting and tired of the hurt and the cycle, but I think this is what we needed so we can take a step back heal and fingers crossed reconnect and have something great again. thats my best friend and the loml
2026-06-16 01:33:24
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Brian Murphy :
can we hear from him?
2026-06-16 12:11:41
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Tatoune :
How long did you stayed distant ?
2026-06-16 08:48:22
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Mandie :
I wish he would beg me to stay. It’s like he knows i won’t actually leave . But God we need help
2026-06-16 02:09:21
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Soren :
Your story makes me hopeful, but I realize from watching your videos that we don’t share kids and have no reason to see each other besides the mediation meetings, so she has no opportunity to see all the work I’ve been doing. It’s a bit disappointing because as I’m healing I know I can make a great life without her, but I’d love to make one with her.
2026-06-16 06:09:29
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Maddie ❤️🔥 :
This gives me hope
2026-06-18 14:50:38
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Billie :
The resentment
2026-06-18 00:05:00
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Raluca :
What if the burnout is from working too much? The problem is not in the relationship but he’s completly depleted from work. I offered to wait but he didnt give me a certain answer, we dont talk and i dont know if he broke up or not, im not blocked but wont answer my texts asking if he broke up with me or just needs some space.
2026-06-18 12:38:33
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Cindy Schade25 :
4 weeks from broke up from burn out but there is a another woman from his work who he work with every day and 1st only stories but they are 8 months now from the 1st story when they were seen together behind my back. We still living together. He don’t whant to see someone but in his previous marriage there was also another man so trust was a orivlem
2026-06-19 21:54:34
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coolassmom77 :
I’m so glad I saw this. This is me. An incident with the kids happened, and it was like a switch flipped. My mind and body wants out of this dynamic we’ve created. I’m exhausted, and my nervous system feels completely overwhelmed. I signed a one year lease on an apartment because I told him that if I stayed and one more major thing happened, I might never come back. Right now, we both need space to work on ourselves if we’re going to have any chance of staying together. The biggest issue is that I don’t feel emotionally safe with him. I don’t see him as reliable. He doesn’t consistently follow through, and too often my feelings are dismissed instead of understood. At this point, I’m so hypervigilant that I’m constantly looking for more evidence to confirm why we shouldn’t be together. I know that’s not a healthy place to be, but it’s the reality of where I am right now.
2026-06-28 01:28:48
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dvkanyname :
In essence, your are talking about domestication a person. There, I’ve said it. Work needs to be done for both and each yourselfs sake. Absolutely. I live through that for the past 1,5 years now. Still not there and it’s raw, deep but honest. Try stay away from domesticated situation while recovering. That’s all.
2026-06-17 14:38:41
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