@jedsplain: Why men offer coffee dates first

Brent :

It is low effort, because I haven’t decided if you’re worth MY TIME yet.

Future Someone :

If the queen of cool (Dua Lipa) said she prefers a coffee date and a walk for a first date (can’t fake the vibe behind an experience) then it should be good enough for everyone

Shawn Mahler :

I’m not spending $100 on dinner to never hear back from someone. I’d most likely wait for that for a 3rd date once I know they are genuinely interested.

thenubforthedub :

Financial standpoint aside... coffee dates are usually during the day, or very early evening. it entails being out, in public, during the daylight in a place with other people. I've always thought of coffee dates as a good chance for people who don't know each other to feel physically and emotionally safe in an environment you can't quickly exit.

Karen Barker7372 :

I'd rather do a coffee date. it's casual, you can have a nice conversation and get to know each other.

jfern.official :

I only do coffee, drinks, or ice cream first dates. If you’re not interested in getting to know me and need a meal or event I’ll pass

michaelvinson1973 :

Getting to know someone is the point right?

Jacob Olguin905 :

It’s either coffee or drinks . Pick one

Johnny :

She’s not “nice” in any way.

BDKnight :

I stopped trying to understand and gave up on dating completely over a decade ago

Daverjayer :

Joshua David Rollo :

Aziz :

You have to explain the basics

SnowSaint :

You guys actually get to the stage of setting up a coffee date? What am I doing wrong 🙈 I can’t even get a match lol

Yossi Barbalat :

I made that mistake many times, but I learned my lesson. its coffee date from now on.

heathan :

SpicyStoner369 :

rather spend the time taking than eating.

bryandavis5154 :

good to know

LoganB :

Passport

Jerimiah :

Coffee. Simple and low pressure. High likelihood of more conversation

skb05630 :

How about McDonald’s

robertomartine1704 :

Bring your own lobster to the coffee date.

Joshua :

I feel a coffee date is a perfect date to get to know someone, evaluate if you want to date the individual, and less obligations involved.

Gary :

So i guess a walk is really out of the question to get to know you