@bustuh: This is a dynamic that is fairly easy to address and correct, STOP BEING CONVENIENT, just be yourself! #avoidant #anxiousattachment #relationshipadvice101 #boundaries
It is the most unnatural thing but a few weeks in and he is double texting, texting first, doing all the initiating. I’m busy all the time now with friends and family. For once my attention isn’t guaranteed. But it wasn’t easy because I didn’t know if I pulled back if he’d step up. But eventually I was so tired that either was better than chasing. Having my self-respect back is the first major win that feels good.
2026-06-16 20:16:54
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ivana :
no, this guy was just not interested 🤷🏼♀️
2026-06-20 04:24:24
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zhtyqr :
Someone who “truly” loved you deeply would never be avoidant.
2026-06-17 17:59:50
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Willow Riley :
This is so true. I literally put him on a pedastal. My life was centered around him and I love all sight of myself!
2026-06-16 21:02:09
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CloudWalker :
Should I tell him I’m backing off then, or go silently and wait?
2026-06-18 01:11:56
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Teresa Taylor- Melody queen 🎶 :
They find consistency boring unfortunately
2026-06-17 21:54:20
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rjflowers0 :
This is too much! I’m not dating just to date! I’m not dealing with this.
2026-06-16 19:41:51
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The best Leroux :
Yes ply into the games and never have a solid relationship. Just move on
2026-06-17 01:52:36
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Jado132 :
I did learn that consistency IS what I needed more than reassurance.
2026-06-16 23:25:40
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♏️👑FutureMillionaireKween👑♐️ :
This is exactly what I’ve been doing, not being convenient, doing me and living life!
2026-06-16 16:03:12
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 :
Dude you are hella smart
2026-06-17 19:48:39
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CAM.ILAAA :
I don’t like playing games with a person that I love … thank you but no thank you!
2026-06-17 13:47:22
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Chelsea :
So draining😩
2026-06-20 01:59:24
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Shai :
I messed up by being super open & honest with him but in the end he really messed up by playing in my face so now he’s blocked indefinitely
2026-06-17 02:25:20
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Jöy❣️ :
I aim to be inconvenient to anyone who is inconsistent 😂😂😂
2026-06-18 16:11:10
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Ah duh :
Yes , it feels like a mind game
2026-06-20 04:39:30
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Keisha :
you're dead on I finally stopped being everything that you listed and I finally had a day where my heart doesn't feel heavy but I'm still hurt
2026-06-17 00:14:32
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Sphiwe Inuka /Teapreneur :
Well said
2026-06-18 05:23:46
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tshepisoyabakwena :
Hell No…may this never cross my path ever again 🙅🏽♀️
2026-06-19 15:36:27
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Laura Barrett :
I thanked my husband for leaving me today. Didn't say why, just "thank you for leaving me." I grew and am better if he comes back or not.
2026-06-17 02:59:28
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Onion's mom💛 :
how can I ask for consistency? is it even a right to ask for this need of mine? should I just walk away?
2026-06-17 20:45:06
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🇺🇸🇨🇺Ari✈️🫶 :
I needed that today. Eye opening! I don’t even know why I continue to try. 😢
2026-06-17 14:11:10
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Mukaji-Bonbon 🧿🇨🇩🇺🇸 :
i agree ,
2026-06-17 00:58:34
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AnonymissUzer :
Then why is she not contacting after 3 weeks when she proposed a vague future date?
2026-06-17 03:55:22
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