Dr. Ruth | That Was Abuse
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Kayla💜🌿🧿🐞 :
I'm so glad you're doing videos about after leaving. In this phase right now and its helps so much
2026-06-16 22:05:05
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mirroredLife 🇨🇦 :
i DO belive ppl can change but I'm a FIRM believer that they can change for the better for the next person in their life, not for the one's they've already hurt.
2026-06-17 02:46:52
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TheDr3amer :
i feel like the parts after you escaped are the hardest to get through and the hardest for me to watch knowing how easy it is to fall back and how hard it is to stay out of those kinds of relationships
2026-06-17 05:54:10
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Tw0_Baby_Seals :
Trust your gut , it's a trap AND notice how all forms of communication could be seen by third parties in case their character came into question.
2026-06-16 20:17:06
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Dawn Anderson :
Your account is changing lives!
2026-06-16 20:12:57
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Caitlin Boardman112 :
even though I know you didnt go back this video narrative makes me stressed for you... ❤️
2026-06-17 00:35:16
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k👩🏻❤️💋👨🏽 :
it’s 100% a trap i’m so glad ur safe now 🥹❤️
2026-06-17 02:36:45
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Persephone_garnet :
This! Thankfully I had the combined experiences of elder survivors on the internet to anticipate the doubts and if you’re in a similar situation, ask yourself: did you feel safe and valued and seen when he was around? All the cognitive doubts and rationalisations can suck it, your gut and intuition knows!
2026-06-16 20:18:56
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carrieleigh :
don't go back. they're an ex for a reason and following your story, you are safer. without that person. you are a survivor. you are strong. you don't need them. do not go back
2026-06-16 22:38:00
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Candy-IRS Problem Solver :
I've been divorced for 19 years and I'm still scared of my ex.
2026-06-17 04:55:27
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ur mom :
first! i’m so proud of you
2026-06-16 20:13:01
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Hales :
Thank you for telling your story. I realized that I wasn’t the only one who thought all of this
2026-06-16 21:14:11
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A :
I’ve never been more proud of a stranger than I am of you
2026-06-16 21:23:22
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🩵Laurie 🩵 :
cognitive dissonance
2026-06-16 22:53:26
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Zo :
You have made my experience feel so valid. I just want to thank you so much for how honest you’re sharing this part of your life. It’s helped me feel less crazy
2026-06-16 21:54:35
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Tracy 🌈🌈 :
OMG this is the earliest I've ever been to your videos. 🩷🩷🩷
2026-06-16 20:13:25
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killing life ig :
leaving my abusive ex the best advice advice I got for the middle period of deciding I was leaving and being gone was to just say "okay"
2026-06-17 02:07:24
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Disney Mama :
I’m so proud of the brave Dr. Ruth that sorted through all the fog and found herself.
2026-06-17 00:14:18
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user785165050658 :
This is every divorce. I went through the same overthinking, worry, examining his motives, MY motives. Would he really change? Is this who he could be? In the end - I knew the answer was to push through the divorce. No matter what, for myself.
2026-06-16 20:16:28
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Jen :
This is when I’m at now. Been out 6 weeks and he’s promising the world. When I start to cave I go look at photos and videos of the abuse. I hate this part of the phase, harder than I thought it would be.
2026-06-16 20:38:23
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Kiera :
They always try to make the effort to change the second they realise they’ve lost you, proud you stayed out 💕
2026-06-16 20:12:36
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TealTile :
I met up with my ex after I left him in the middle of the night. A month later, he returned my car to me. I met him alone in a parking lot. He was all dressed up in new clothes, he’d been working out, got a new haircut, and he was wearing that perfume he knew I loved, the one that always reminded me of when we first met. He wanted to take me out to a restaurant. He told me he was a changed man, that he was going to therapy, and he said he was sorry for all the abuse. I felt like such a horrible piece of shit while I was gray rocking him. I didn't see those black shark eyes. I saw the warm brown eyes I first fell in love with… But just an hour later, the texts started pouring in like a waterfall. I was a horrible human being, I was evil, I had turned into a monster, I was no longer the Mandy he knew and loved. I still get emotional thinking about this. Because deep down inside, there’s a version of him I love and care for… a distant version that just withered away.
2026-06-16 20:21:56
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Karla Braxton :
Do not go back. Let him change for someone else.
2026-06-16 21:06:20
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Kaliani :
their agreeableness is so creepy after the fact. I'm so glad you're free.🍾🥂
2026-06-16 20:21:00
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TheCandlePitt 🇦🇺 :
My ex was apologetic, sensitive, caring.....until he realised I wasn't coming back. That's when the switch flipped.
2026-06-17 04:08:12
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