@dexterfrankenstein: Replying to @Mofo Philly 🖤🐠⚡️ It is devastating when people don't take our neurodivergence seriously. We deserve to be supported regardless of how autism, ADHD, OCD, or any other neurotypes make other people feel. Denying science and our neurospicy lived experiences is a disservice. #neurospicy #audhd #latediagnosedautistic #latediagnosedadhd #actuallyautistic

V • Behold Her Bloom :

Support, to me, is very much different than validation. Ive learned to validate my own experiences and recognize my own little victories day to day. I think whats more diminishing is the fact that there ARE unfortunately people using these disorders as a means of social media trends by making it look like its cute or quirky when there are legitimate mental health struggles that come along with this disorders. I honeslty don’t even feel right calling them disorders.

Riley B :

my biggest trigger for meltdown is being misunderstood / not believed. my wife is a big part of that.

michemarche 🇨🇦🏳️‍🌈💖💛🩵 :

no one used to take my diagnosis seriously until I unmasked at work. that made an impact. after a few weeks I got brought into my supervisors office and I'd actually say it was a positive impact because I've been encouraged to stay unmasked at work.

Hyperfocus House :

I literally had someone stop talking to me after I told them I was Autistic. He's like I know people with Autism and you're not. It’s wild that people can downplay our diagnosis.

thatoneguy :

it's almost like constant monitoring like always being observed and the feeling of constantly being observed and you keep messing up because of it

HarperAvery Beano 🐾💙 :

followed!

frenchy1110❌ :

I have decided not to tell anyone. I would be devastated if they didn’t believe me.

Joanne Bell :

very helpful, thank you 😍

Neuro Spice Vlogs :

It's really hard that the neurodivergent symptoms/traits are normal things that everyone do from time to time. But it's different in the neurodivergent brain. Not time to time, more like most of them daily occurrences. Sorry, I've made this comment right at the start of your video cos it's the first thing I thought and the ADHD took over to having to comment it. Now I'll watch the rest to see you probably say something similar but more articulate 😅

bethJUSTbeth :

💯 this is THE struggle. I'm 24601 over here -- WHO AM I??? Late diagnosis is killing the second half of my life.

Charissa Florene :

Yep.

dopaminemunchking :

Same💚💚💚

vincyviv :

Herbie Hancock :

It drives me nuts when people say 'oh we are all a little bit autistic' it's negating how difficult my life is and it shows me they are not a safe person.

This is Tos🧚🏾‍♀️ :

The reason I don't get those reactions now is because if you don't root for me, want the best for me, accept me as I am, and think neurodivergence isnt real and im just a lazy slob - you don't get access to me. Worth every bit of grief I feel initially when I go no contact🤷🏾‍♀️🩵✨

SLC+3🇨🇦 :

I was just diagnosed in April with severe adhd and mild autism at 44.. Ive been no contact for 3 years from my family.. they would be such aholes if they were around me now..

ghooz :

I found a lot of podcasts,books ,....on adhd ,strategis,....but i can't make myself read them ,or do the strategies for example the reward one ,I don't like anything to make it a reword ,the visual timer i just ignor it,... body doubling, I tried studying in cafe ,library ,...but i feel uncomfortable, I do better alone facing a wall... I live in one room so I can't realy seperat spaces ,and I speak basic Korean.... so I'm not sure I can get much help from korean groups,I'm introvert, and can say have no friends ,just acquaintances, I don't even know how to make friend and when I try , I care too much and like just going out 2 or 3 times I think we are friends but they don't and find myself giving in and letting them cross my boundaries, initiating every thing like I'm beging and after a time they leave and most me and I start playing myself and always making excuses so now I isolation myself ...I feel like I have nothing worthy in my life in any level ,job,friends,family,studies,I don't even know if I like what I'm studying, relationships,hoppirs,style,...anything...I realy can't think about anything I care ,love,can do,good at ,...like so empty...

ghooz :

hi ,i hope all of you can help me if you can ,I was diagnosed like 3 monthes ago at the age of 28, in my country they don't realy care about mental health ...so mybe thats a reason i wasn't diagnosed, now i live in korea for the last 3 years and struggling with my phd , especially this year and thats why i got diagnosed, i allways felt that there is somthing with me and i found a lot about adhd from social .... i didn't hear about it befor as i said its not a thing in my country ... and now my doctor is adjesting the dosage and we try to find the medicine that suits me even though there are limited option ,so fo now im on 30 mg methylphenidate and 10 mg of stratera i think he is trying to switch and try non stimulate medicine as stimilant was effecting me emotional but no physical side effects,...I want to ask : *if you know some online resources for free ,I'm a student on a schoolership...so a tight budget. *I also think I need help with like systems,....I heard a lot of strategies...but I don't know how to start ,mybe I got used to the way I do things and don't know how to realy start making changes,... *does anyone know of seport groups...in korea or that one that i can join? *I didn't tell my familly about adhd ,because they will not understand and I don't fell attached to them ,I feel guilty about this but I realy don't know how to deal with this,is there any advice? *I don't know if i have autism even though I suspect?is there a way to confirm ? *I also find myself to don't remember Amy of my childhood, or studies,...like I'm doing phd but I feel like I know nothing in my subject,...and I also don't know anything about myself ,like I just blend in with people tast for food ,clothes,...I feel like I have no personality,favorite,somthing I'm interested in ,i don't know how to describe it ,like I like nothing and interested in nothing,and I feel guilty being happy ,whatever I do there is no joy ... *and if you are muslim or religious I would like advice of how you deal with adhd and praying,believes,.. I realy would like your advices and help,

dancing pigeon :

F47, diagnosed at 43 as AuDHD. Exactly, it is so deeply hurtful. It’s death by a thousand cuts. I can’t even get my immediate family understand or fully believe me because I’m quite accomplished (but at a cost) and when it shows through they want me to hide it, not mask per se but hide it.

cogada :

I had one friend who reacted by saying I should go out more, meet people, make friends. I was like did you not hear anything I just said? She was responding like a typical NT person and extrovert. Because that's what SHE would do to feel better. The next time I heard from her was when she told me she was really worried about me and considered having a welfare check done to make sure I wasn't going to harm myself. I then felt obligated to make sure SHE was OK. Like now I have to apologize for scaring her?? Never once did I say or imply self-harm. shaking my head.

ghooz :

I don't think I can go back to my country and family, we think soo differently, its a big familly in one house ,to much noise, I can't go live alone there,and there is no seport for adhd ...they think its being lazy the medication too is not given, my familly is traditional ,I don't want kids not sure about if I will find someone or get married even though I know I won't be forced to Marry ,I will be there in the house with nowhere to go ,told how lazy I'm, that I should marry,... that's why I left in the first place

Mallery Elizabeth :

My mom basically thinks that Jesus will heal me from it. I believe in Jesus too but maybe He made me this way! There is nothing wrong with me it’s just the way I am. I just want her to research for herself and realize that I am autistic even if I am 40. My so called friend also is not understanding me like not wanting to talk on the phone. At least my husband supports me. It is deeply painful especially because I am the one going through it all and I just need them!