@mindbrainbodylab: Every kind-sounding line in an avoidant discard is usually fear wearing a nicer outfit. "You deserve better" rarely means you weren't enough. More often it means: getting close to you made me feel a vulnerability I had no tools for, so I left before you could see all of me. That's not a verdict on your worth. It's a nervous system choosing distance over danger. Their exit explained them — not you. Follow if you're done translating someone else's fear as proof you were the problem. #avoidantattachment #anxiousattachment #heartbreakhealing #emotionalavailability #securelove

Mivok :

Heathcliff :

Put this on her fyp

Jackie :

Lol I just want my stuff back… it’s been 3 and a half months—going on 4. We’ve made several attempts to meet up to exchange but plans always fell through on his side, now he just ignores my texts. Why

𝐾𝑟𝑦𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑙 𝐵𝑟𝑜𝑜𝑘𝑒 🌺 :

Going thru this right now! We were together for 1 1/2 years. Lived together for a year. I poured all the love I could into us and he left anyways to work on himself..

Lucinda Amare - (Melissa) :

'I love you but if you can find someone who is better for you then you should bc this is not gonna work' is that also discard of am I just blind as eff? 😅

Dakota Wisniewski :

Have you ever heard this? “You’re an incredible human who deserves someone all in and who don’t give up wish nothing but amazing things for you❤️goodbye kota”

laura :

what if they say theyre busy all the time?

Brooke Clancy :

He said allllllllll of this to me, walked away, got in a new relationship a week later, she dumped him and he reached back out to me. I put up my boundary and he now have left the door cracked open, but I can’t do the inbetween shit anymore regardless of how much I love him.

K :

This is so emotionally draining, 4 years and a half of my life to his empty promises and emotional unavailability, I was left shattered and in therapy. This is just inconsiderate, because I was patient with him loved him with all of my heart beyond his flaws, while he could not even handle any of my flaws. I had to chose myself in order for him to say these things once I set a boundary for my own self respect. It’s painful to see how he is trying to move on looking for somebody else after less than a year after the breakup, when he gave me these reasons as in why he couldn’t commit to me.

shawn 🩷🍧 :

let this show up on his fyp please!

adamsandler44 :

And what about finding someone else asap? Does this all still hold same value?

abby :

what about when he told me he wasn’t sure his feelings were even real :)

Suhlayer :

Completely correct.

Samuel Nemcik :

thank you, how can i get her back and tell her i will be here for her through anything?

egzonadee :

I cant give you what you want OR icant hold you but I cant leave you either

Kami :

Thanks Cody

Vivi💜 :

He broke up with me but whenever I text he always replies or calls me what does that meannn

g_o__a_w_a_y📍 :

I intrinsically know this.

Faith 🩷 :

Wow I heard a few of these lines in our breakup text 😳

Asinine :

yep, still hurts

mamapini :

Mine told me the girl he started dating while with me was his peace he said ' I found my peace of mind'

Randomacc🎀💝⭐️💐🦄🦋 :

How about “I’m just going to move on” or “We need to move on”?

Amanda💕just a RAD CT tech :

It takes a lot of patience and communication on both sides but it can be done with the right person

Devil in a blue dress :

oh my god he has said every one of these 😅😂 I am saving this and going to send it to him when he says one of these again...

SnapesAngel20 :

Literally got 6 of these in the conversation that blindsided the fuck out of me 2 weeks before I was supposed to move in with them. Jesus fuck. They wanted to go no contact, so at the end of the call I just said “I love you, I’m grateful for our time together.” And haven’t said shit since then but I am GONG INSANE and I miss them so much. I’ve never had an avoidant discard but every feeling in my body wants to fix this and I’m just trying to go silent. Oh, then 10 days later i got a “Closure” email with a 4 page PDF I didn’t read. I can’t even deal with this, but if they don’t want me that’s their loss. I just love them and want them back in my life.