@iamdanieloh: A red flag is not the same thing as a weakness, and confusing the two will either make you tolerate things you should never tolerate, or walk away from someone over something that was never actually a problem. A red flag is a violation of your boundaries — disrespect, shaming, name calling, putting someone down for no justified reason. A weakness is a quirk, a pattern, something that shows up in how two people handle conflict but does not cross the line into character. Here is how to tell which one you are actually looking at.