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Cammul123 :
Something my therapist once told me about cyclical healing (which is the healing where most days you’re fine and then everything crumbles and you’re not ok for a while again and then you’re ok and then you’re not) I said “it feels like every time I remember *the trauma* everything I built gets torn down and I’m starting again from the foundations…” she said “since you’re already thinking in metaphors, what you described the feeling as is like a demolition, one thing falls and everything collapses to unrecoverable dust. But the reality is, you’re playing Jenga. It’s supposed to fall. You’re supposed to rebuild every time. Yes it’s tiring yes it’s heavy and yes it hurts, but you rebuild, you go about your day taking pieces out of that tower and eventually it’ll fall again. Until one time you build that tower, you take the pieces out perfectly and it never falls again. How many times will your tower fall? Doesn’t matter, maybe hundreds, thousands, millions of times. Maybe it only falls once more. Who cares? You’ll rebuild again. You’ll be okay again. You’re allowed to let the tower fall. No matter where you are in life. You’re allowed to grieve.” I left that session crying because my jenga tower fell and I didn’t feel the weight of it all again, I just saw the trigger, the piece that broke the tower, and I said “I am allowed to rebuild as much as I need, we’ll see how well this rebuild goes.” And I went and stared at some trees to decompress and that was 1.5 years ago… it’s been one day since my tower fell again, a poem brought it all back, my fyp seems to know I’m rebuilding again… and Ykw? It doesn’t hurt as much as last time… maybe this time I’ll rebuild and never have the fall again. Maybe not. That’s okay too. And if you’re still reading, you’re allowed to grieve as much as it takes, no matter where you are in life, no matter what anyone says. The ache will fade again and again. Until one day you’ll let it go for the last time in your life. But until then, keep feeling, keep healing, keep living.
2026-06-18 06:19:46
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jessicaryannmarie :
if it’s real love, you can’t get over it. you learn to live with it. you carry the love with you, the experience, the pain, the beautiful moments, all of it. you will build a new life for yourself & you may fall in love eventually but it will never be the same. you simply cannot love any two people in the same way.
2026-06-26 16:19:52
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Marcus Weber :
Going on about 9 months bro
2026-07-02 14:40:28
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haleydewald :
i think my time frame is the rest of my life lol
2026-06-19 03:33:52
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Kevinbostwick :
Its been 6 months… i think about her every day
2026-06-21 18:22:45
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diana 🏎️ :
no bc genuinely why do people get so upset about other not moving on, my mom gets so upset at me for not being able to completely get over my ex
2026-06-22 23:47:23
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logan..joseph :
It’s been 5 years and I miss her more and more with each passing day.
2026-06-19 00:05:49
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matdea04 :
It’s been 2 years and I regret not breaking no contact
2026-06-25 15:31:19
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Mel :
I used to judge other people for being stuck on someone that was so shitty to them… well guess what I’m in that predicament right fucking now and I’ve never understood it more. My ex treated me like absolute SHIT at the end of our relationship and even after he left me. Did that mean I stopped loving him? Nope. Did I want to more than anything else in this universe? Absofuckinglutely. I’m embarrassed asf to still have feelings for him and to miss him after everything he put me through. But I can’t tell my brain to just stop loving him. Feelings don’t work like that 🙃 they can’t be switched on and off like a light switch. The only thing that’s gonna help is time. Oh and therapy.
2026-06-24 02:12:59
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Quake :
Every time they say it too, it just makes me miss him more, not less
2026-06-20 23:53:20
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Lily Hensby :
My therapist says “it only takes a second for your leg to break but months for it to heal” and that’s the same as your heart.
2026-06-27 05:28:55
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zarith :
Fr it’s almost 2 years already and still i get triggered by things that reminded me of it
2026-06-27 19:10:32
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visualxvic :
The worst feeling too is that you’re stuck still missing them, yearning for them, memories come back and it’s like shit just happened yesterday but then you snap back and remember that while you’re still missing her or tryna heal that she ain’t even been missing you or thinking about you and has been moved on so it’s like damn bruh
2026-06-26 12:59:01
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Ammelia :
I don’t understand how people just stop loving someone they loved. My mind refuses to understand that concept.
2026-07-01 11:45:45
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GrimeStar :
Last time I saw her and held her was my birthday weekend last year, my birthday is in 3 weeks and I’ll will be in San Diego with my friends. I know when that weekend hits I’ll be in shambles
2026-06-21 19:00:58
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Leo :
Go to Hollywood
2026-06-18 11:47:04
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Maddie :
And don’t forget the beauty of it. somebody was so amazing that it feels impossible to move on. what a privilege it is to have had and known a person that we’re trying so hard to forget about. Find that beauty in the pain and embrace it. And don’t let anyone take it away from you
2026-06-26 22:01:32
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das2396 :
One of her favorite bands is Red Hot Chili Peppers, it’s been 10 months and I still can’t listen to them and have to skip their songs because it always reminds me of what I lost. Grief is the price we pay for love. Sometimes life just sucks.
2026-06-19 03:11:45
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Ryan 🎸🃏 :
There’s no time frame for healing. It took me almost 4 years to get over my ex. You heal when you heal.
2026-06-19 05:20:51
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jfish1723 :
It’s been 8 months and it still feels like yesterday.
2026-06-20 20:11:39
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marshall :
I feel embarrassed to even consider she thinks of me at all
2026-06-22 05:13:59
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Budda Roll :
My heart literally holds a spot for everyone I’ve ever loved, you never stop loving someone you TRULY loved
2026-06-18 11:19:29
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