@beyondbeautifull: Am I a bad guy for telling my friend that I cannot host him after his abusive wife kicked him out? R/relationship_advice By:ActiveExpress9029 #fyp #beyondbeautifull #BlackTikTok #redditstories #redditreadings
i think 'its complicated' means the friend isnt truly ready to leave. the caution is called for.
2026-06-18 10:32:11
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MurrayMae :
I understand where he’s coming from but I’m worried that when the friend is ready to fully leave, he won’t see OP as a safe person to go to for help anymore and those lifelines are critical.
2026-06-18 12:03:13
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kristina.quarantina :
Side note, love the sweater
2026-06-26 20:25:43
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The Urban Druid :
as someone who escaped this kind of situation myself, there are so many layers to work through in this one. nta for protecting his peace of mind, but definitely ignorant of what's actually going on. he should sit with his friend and hear him out. determine what kind of help he could give. in abusive relationships, friends and family are huge lifelines.
2026-06-18 13:35:14
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🫶 :
In the end it’s on the friend to save himself, he needs to figure out that it isn’t complicated, he can leave.
2026-06-18 10:29:35
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nta if he's not leaving, it makes no sense.
2026-06-18 11:06:57
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Tee A Hunt :
Always protect your peace. Nothing wrong with not wanting the chaos in your world. Nothing wrong with not wanting the same song and dance hurting you. However, get your friend some contacts to get him some help ie… counselor, outreach centers
2026-06-18 10:16:23
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Tonia Madric Thomas :
Absolutely not disrupting my house for anyone.
2026-06-18 15:14:59
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Magneto ᱬ :
that question "is it a break or divorce" and he cant give an answer ?? NOPE
2026-06-19 06:29:41
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Yve :
I’m torn. I understand OP’s feelings and they deserve to protect their peace. Also: statistically it can take around 7 attempts for a person to leave an abusive relationship. The friend is showing signs they want out. I would offer a safe haven while trying not to be emotionally invested
2026-06-18 22:57:53
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Amanda :
This is a horrible situation all around. I hope the friend gets away from that woman and heals.
2026-06-18 10:20:29
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Eugene_da_great :
Saying no to protect your peace is very valid.
2026-06-18 13:08:38
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Liz :
as someone who has been in multiple abusive relationships, beautiful is right. OP should protect his peace, but leaving those relationships is more complicated psychologically and financially than people realize. I think OP should reach out to the friend's mom.
2026-06-18 15:00:09
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user2006303707322 :
NTA…protect your peace and family
2026-06-18 10:18:56
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Nora Rosindhu J :
This is a sad situation. I hope his friend can get out.
2026-06-18 10:15:23
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Shayne :
On average it is the 7th REPORTED abuse situation that happens before the victim leaves. That number only reports the times that the abuse has a file report. In reality, it is many times more than that. Because victims won’t always report the abuse.
2026-06-21 15:04:12
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JenniTheBombDiggity79 :
That answer was SPOT ON! This man is a victim. It’s gonna take time.
2026-06-18 11:01:51
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❌K-Leigh in Kentucky❌74 :
Protecting yourself, your wife, your home, and your peace is never being overly cautious.
2026-06-19 03:28:45
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Mel :
As a survivor, he had every right to turn his friend away. He is right for not to be around that person because it gets bad. Fortunately for me, I did not lose my best friends and close friends. They did not give up on me.
2026-06-18 22:12:36
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someRandomShmo2 :
or, conversely, don't invite chaos in your home.
2026-06-18 12:52:10
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Nightmere78 :
He may have also just made it harder for the friend to leave his situation because if he thinks he has nowhere to go, and nobody on his side, he will just stay.
2026-06-18 12:26:08
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🪷Default_1984🧿 :
Losing a close friend can be worse than ending a romantic relationship.
2026-06-19 01:29:48
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ℓуηzσ💚 :
I'm so glad you spoke on how long it takes to leave... even when you know it's time to go, leaving is hard!! and for many reasons as well!!! thank you for mentioning that!! 💚💚❤️🩹❤️🩹
2026-06-22 14:34:02
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Strawberry Cookie Crisp 🥰 :
I hate that I have to search for you now 🙄 you used to always be on my fyp 😅
2026-06-18 20:30:44
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Shannon Miller Trayl :
NTA, don’t let anyone ruin your peace!
2026-06-19 01:20:52
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