@growwithkaela: DAs thrive in the honeymoon period. Surface level, no pressure, no expectations, only validation and fun. But when feelings begin to grow and you want to hold that confidence of exclusivity with them, they will often retreat to the “I love you but I’m not in love with you” line. It’s not a feeling that they’re describing. It’s an exit strategy with a soft place to land. More often than not, they were in love with you to the point of their capacity. They just sabotaged it before they risked letting go of the independence they’ve depended on to feel safe for their entire life.
this happened to me, we seperated 10 weeks ago and I don't know which way to turn.
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reclaimedcoaching.org :
Amazing information amazing amazing! Thank you 🙏
2026-06-20 00:01:47
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Win :
Wow! That is real. Thanks!
2026-06-19 02:45:19
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Tequila Coco🥥🍍🔮🌙──⃝─⃝⃝⃝⃝── :
oh his exactly words
2026-06-20 00:52:38
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user9281914359034 :
Thank you for the amazing insight!
2026-06-18 18:19:53
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Aimee-20-20 :
“I just don’t feel that man-woman thing with you” 😳😳 That took me three years to understand it was him not me. And now, I understand he doesn’t want to do all the healing work. And I am left with having to accept the half-off version of love. And I still think it’s worth it. And rationally I know I should want more for myself. But this is also convenient for me. Just painful from time to time. The conundrum is real. 🌸
2026-07-19 04:49:36
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Brittany Cramer :
in my case someone else did come along. he told me specifically that she made him want to try again etc
2026-06-18 21:20:07
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J R Wells :
Now I'm beginning to piece all this together bit by bit I could actually feel that my ex DA loved me. Now I can see the patterns I never asked anything of her. I simply wanted to be with her after 15 years I never would have thought she would never talk to me about what she was going through. This last thing she told me was I DON'T KNOW WHY I AM THE WAY THAT I AM. Was that a call for help?? She's gonna live rent free in my head until the day that I die.
2026-06-22 18:47:48
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kikihmj0 :
It’s the best thing that mine took the decision to discard it is soooo hard but now I imagine myself still with them for the next few years
2026-07-07 10:05:18
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SasssyLassie :
No one on this app articulates them with fervent precision like you! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙏
2026-06-18 21:19:17
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DONE! :
yea surface level ones who has not seen whats under the mask one of many btw. all they see is the performance but every movie comes to an end. my condolences bud 🙏 !
2026-07-16 09:47:01
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Victoria :
oh my godddd
2026-06-18 18:45:02
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řichie :
I love your videos they make me feel so much better and the confidence to try to cut the cord between us
2026-06-18 14:54:59
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Wesley Hagan :
This!!!
2026-06-18 17:14:48
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Andrew H :
Your content is really great. You totally get it. In my case she didn’t tell me she wasn’t in love she just no longer knew if she wanted to be in the marriage. She knew she didn’t want the marriage to end, but couldn’t commit to knowing if she wanted to stay together. It was very frustrating because I couldn’t get closure either way. She offered to stay friends with benefits while things ‘settled down’ and needed me to ‘be calm’ give her space and check in on how she felt each week. I left and have since healed, but it was brutal.
2026-06-18 15:34:08
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cathleen Bell Harper :
It’s weird because I struggle with my “just friends” with a guy who is an avoidant. we fight a lot and I feel crazy because his words vs his actions aren’t the same
2026-06-18 17:37:03
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Fun Times :
Being involved with these suck
2026-06-18 14:44:50
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Joha :
In my experience, it was so wild but at the same time extremely empowering. He broke up with me because I was bringing situations that made me uncomfortable, he twisted things tried to manipulate me, at the end he said that he wanted to be friends. I declined his request. I’m just continuing my therapy, I don’t want to disturb my peace.
2026-06-22 20:56:46
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Ojingeobap :
🥰🥰🥰
2026-06-20 00:21:36
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Tone | Author & Human Systems :
💯💯💯
2026-06-18 15:51:36
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Kaeden :
😁😁😁
2026-06-19 04:01:43
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