natalie louise
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Fanhitceiling :
How come the avoidant can afford to give time and effort to others but not to their partner?
2026-06-18 20:14:55
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Jessie :
he literally told me he was scared he would be the one who would hurt me... then proceeded to hurt me 🤣
2026-08-03 09:20:58
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Brxd.Bird :
So avoidant people, just run away from their issues? 😐
2026-06-30 17:41:21
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⁴⁴Chemethstryﾒ𝟶 :
not even 5 seconds into this video and I'm done, thank you for the extra anger/energy for the gym- sincerely, a twice discarded anxious
2026-06-19 21:12:11
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John delroy :
The problem with the avoidant/anxious cycle is that both halves take responsibility for the other. Self abandonment. When you take responsibility for meeting another persons needs you stop meeting your own and as a result can’t set healthy boundaries. Most anxious attached people have abandonment issues they need to work on but they’re honest and upfront. They don’t expect their partner to read their minds. Avoidants lie, minimize, abandon, self sabotage, expect mind reading because they can’t communicate their feelings honestly. The reason the relationships typically fail are because either they pulled back and kicked things off out of shame or because they constantly tested the relationship to see if the other half would stay through their disappearing acts and by the time they actually feel safe enough to give it a rest, the relationship is so worm out from the constant testing it’s hanging on by thread if it even still exists
2026-08-04 19:02:27
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🪝orey ⸆⸉ :
For the anxious attachments, me included, you also have a life outside of the relationship. Live your own life simultaneously with the relationship and you will always have yourself to back on to
2026-06-21 10:29:10
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NotThatDeepTho 😭 :
It still doesn’t make any sense at all like why u responsible for my happiness?? Smh
2026-06-18 21:28:57
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egzonadee :
A few weeks before we broke up, I asked him if he had any fears about me, and he replied, "Yes, fear of losing you." The day he left me, he said, "Did you see that I was hurting you?"
2026-07-23 09:12:49
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E :
Few questions tho… 1)why do they mention future plans then? 2) are we (anxious ppl) asking for too much to want to be around our partners and talking about our feelings etc? Is that a fault on our part?
2026-06-19 20:51:33
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agponceee :
So why all that and then rebound?
2026-06-18 21:20:38
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erinfay :
This is exactly holy shit
2026-06-18 18:48:03
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KLK :
He used to tell me "I feel like you love me more than I love myself" facts...
2026-08-10 14:45:12
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Corey 🇨🇦 :
You’re describing somebody that is extremely anxiously attached, that needs constant daily reassurance and needs the other person there at all times just to survive. Not avoiding people are with somebody like that. The best thing a person could do for themselves is to not fall in love with un avoidant person, the problem is you won’t find out until it’s too late. They will treat you like you’re too much and say the same type of stuff as in this video even if you are nowhere near the type of person that needs constant reassurance. They want it to be normal for them to be able to just pull away without saying a word and to do it all the time, and to have it not affect you at all, but the problem is they are going to do it until it actually does affect you, even if that takes months, and then that’s when they get to say “I can’t be responsible for your happiness, or don’t put your doubt on me“. Dating my ex made me never wanna date ever again, truly. I’ve been single for six years and I’ll go another six. I’m happy with just me, my dog and horse, or at least satisfied 👍. It’s just not worth it anymore
2026-06-21 18:33:05
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error404probablymyfault :
Way too much drama/too stressful. He could've literally just have left me alone.
2026-08-10 22:37:01
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philip Cyr :
I didn’t need my avoidant to parent me. I needed my avoidance to be human with me. I was secure attached until someone woke up in the morning and fled after eight years that was not my doing that was theirs.
2026-06-18 22:20:30
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Sabthz :
she told me she had a history of self sabotage and a fear of abandonment. then sabotaged the relationship and abandoned me instead
2026-08-11 05:06:57
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Music_is_key11 :
He broke my heart so much.
2026-06-21 10:33:23
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user9699249041902 :
girl … were you a fly on the wall in my relationship?
2026-07-25 22:06:29
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shaaz :
Omg you're literally spot on! Not trying to flex my avoidant attachment cause it honestly sucks. But you nailed it by putting exactly how I feel into words.
2026-06-19 11:17:39
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Steph_ford :
Ok but what if you are securely attached. You have your own life outside the relationship. Your emotional, spiritual needs etc are meet by other platonic relationships. You also are comfortable been hurt because ultimately you know you’ll survive. That their hot and cold behaviour doesn’t define your self worth because it’s actually a reflection of their internal world not your worth? How do you get them to see that??
2026-06-25 05:29:00
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Josh :
Gosh, Natalie. Every single word did this is spot on for mine and her relationship. The entire length of it. Many years. I wish she could just see this. Thanks for continuing to make content. 🫶
2026-06-18 16:09:17
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Peppie_010 :
Thankyou for this girl!!❤️❤️but the best thing for a avoidant to do is HEAL!!! coz at the end it’s gonna break you TRUST ME!! And if they want a healthy relationship they gotta change for themselfs !!
2026-07-18 15:49:45
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Buffey Cary :
7 yrs together and recently discarded on 6/29 and he never planned on marrying me. He emotionally destroyed me. Said I wasn’t the kind of partner he wanted in his life , after 7 yrs. Told me to move on with my life … 😔 never felt seen , heard or understood. I left peacefully but he text me ? Says to everyone he wants to remain friends ? For what reason?
2026-07-20 16:17:39
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我的爱是, 艺术。 :
My avoidant made me avoidant and I didn’t like it. So it made me go work on my anxious attachment. Now I’m secure where the space doesn’t bother me as much but I do have an anxious lean. Progress is progress.
2026-06-20 13:05:54
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