@melrobbins: These 4 behaviors secretly destroy relationships. Today on the Mel Robbins Podcast, I am joined by Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, the world’s leading relationship researchers and founders of the @TheGottmanInstitute, with 50 years studying what makes love last — and what causes it to fall apart. Listen to this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast now! 🎧 “The #1 Relationship Researchers in the World: 50 Years of Marriage & Love Advice in One Conversation”
Contempt is a result of resentment which is the result of not being seen or heard.
2026-06-19 10:12:57
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justbecause399 :
Oof I noticed all these before deciding I was done ✅ I firmly believe leaving the relationship saved my life. Thanks for sharing this info it really validates what I’ve felt,
2026-06-20 20:45:51
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Sarah Shauan :
Criticism and critique are different
2026-06-19 21:47:44
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Nanny :
Contempt comes from losing respect for your partner?
2026-06-19 00:03:53
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Keri :
This is so not reality. Together for 17yrs, we have contempt at times, defensiveness at times, and resentment at times. We always communicate and end up better. Never been healthier or happier. Pushing each other to be better for each other vs acceptance is a healthy marriage that will last ❤️
2026-06-19 22:07:53
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Ronnie :
the first 2 cause the 3rd an 4th
2026-06-19 19:37:29
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metsly :
I’m a very defensive person due to me feeling like I’m always in trouble esp with my boyfriend. How do I stop doing that?
2026-06-19 22:55:32
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Mr. Cobretti :
I’m so happy I married the right person. So in love with my wife.
2026-06-19 18:58:20
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KABOOM :
CONTEMPT. SHOUT OUT TO MY HUSBAND
2026-06-19 17:05:46
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Patricia C :
Is retreating the same as stonewalling? Because I will shut down when I’m overwhelmed and walk away to avoid being critical, defensive and contemptuous.. I know I can respond either horribly and make it worse, or pull back and come back with a cooler head…
2026-06-18 23:19:25
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Sydney Starr :
I was just googling this the other day. I really with I knew this stuff a decade ago. TikTok did not come fast enough for me.
2026-06-20 01:52:50
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Monika :
My husband usually goes silent when I’m upset. He says he does it because he doesn’t want to add fuel to the fire. He listens to what I have said and usually comes back for the calm discussion later that day.
2026-06-19 18:07:41
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Goof Cooties🇨🇦 :
How can they BOTH be the #1 researcher? 🤔
2026-06-20 19:47:28
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dani California :
I dunno about the prediction of infectious diseases, albeit very very harmful and painful, - devastating -but claims like that are happening, there needs to be quantitative statistical psychometric study proof
2026-06-19 15:45:28
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Rae_0203_🇿🇦🇵🇸 :
Omg am I the toxic one 😳
2026-06-19 08:37:41
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laEmperatriz :
Wow
2026-06-20 09:44:03
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Imad Hanif :
🗿: However, the apparent reasons for successful relationships can be mentioned;love, altruism, patience and fairness...
2026-06-18 21:13:37
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TinaJ. :
Whow 😳
2026-06-19 17:22:52
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La La B :
Can you give examples of contempt
2026-06-19 05:53:49
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Greiii✨like✨the✨Color💫 :
Stay Light… it fuels your soul ✨🙏
2026-06-19 15:49:31
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aubra_cadabra :
How do you stop contempt
2026-06-20 16:58:17
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bretlu2010 :
Same with other forms of intimate relationships too.
2026-06-20 02:25:42
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Jamal Anderson :
I think contempt is the biggest here it can cause so much damage
2026-06-19 15:33:00
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AELOS :
My whole experience was my ex being contemptuous with me. Worst experience ever.
2026-06-20 04:36:51
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