@melrobbins: These 4 behaviors secretly destroy relationships. Today on the Mel Robbins Podcast, I am joined by Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, the world’s leading relationship researchers and founders of the @TheGottmanInstitute, with 50 years studying what makes love last — and what causes it to fall apart. Listen to this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast now! 🎧 “The #1 Relationship Researchers in the World: 50 Years of Marriage & Love Advice in One Conversation”

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brandonandyruben
Brandon Goodman :
I regret ever getting married
2026-06-19 12:22:04
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4dcasablanca
No.Regrets :
Contempt is a result of resentment which is the result of not being seen or heard.
2026-06-19 10:12:57
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justbecause399
justbecause399 :
Oof I noticed all these before deciding I was done ✅ I firmly believe leaving the relationship saved my life. Thanks for sharing this info it really validates what I’ve felt,
2026-06-20 20:45:51
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sarahshauan
Sarah Shauan :
Criticism and critique are different
2026-06-19 21:47:44
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nanny0432
Nanny :
Contempt comes from losing respect for your partner?
2026-06-19 00:03:53
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_youreadyb
Keri :
This is so not reality. Together for 17yrs, we have contempt at times, defensiveness at times, and resentment at times. We always communicate and end up better. Never been healthier or happier. Pushing each other to be better for each other vs acceptance is a healthy marriage that will last ❤️
2026-06-19 22:07:53
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ronnietickto
Ronnie :
the first 2 cause the 3rd an 4th
2026-06-19 19:37:29
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user7574399279004
metsly :
I’m a very defensive person due to me feeling like I’m always in trouble esp with my boyfriend. How do I stop doing that?
2026-06-19 22:55:32
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mr.cobretti
Mr. Cobretti :
I’m so happy I married the right person. So in love with my wife.
2026-06-19 18:58:20
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culyculy_
KABOOM :
CONTEMPT. SHOUT OUT TO MY HUSBAND
2026-06-19 17:05:46
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inspiredtobelieve444
Patricia C :
Is retreating the same as stonewalling? Because I will shut down when I’m overwhelmed and walk away to avoid being critical, defensive and contemptuous.. I know I can respond either horribly and make it worse, or pull back and come back with a cooler head…
2026-06-18 23:19:25
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sydneystarr1
Sydney Starr :
I was just googling this the other day. I really with I knew this stuff a decade ago. TikTok did not come fast enough for me.
2026-06-20 01:52:50
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monikagigi3
Monika :
My husband usually goes silent when I’m upset. He says he does it because he doesn’t want to add fuel to the fire. He listens to what I have said and usually comes back for the calm discussion later that day.
2026-06-19 18:07:41
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geoff.coates
Goof Cooties🇨🇦 :
How can they BOTH be the #1 researcher? 🤔
2026-06-20 19:47:28
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dani.california57
dani California :
I dunno about the prediction of infectious diseases, albeit very very harmful and painful, - devastating -but claims like that are happening, there needs to be quantitative statistical psychometric study proof
2026-06-19 15:45:28
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rae_0203_
Rae_0203_🇿🇦🇵🇸 :
Omg am I the toxic one 😳
2026-06-19 08:37:41
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laemperatriz571
laEmperatriz :
Wow
2026-06-20 09:44:03
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imad.hanif
Imad Hanif :
🗿: However, the apparent reasons for successful relationships can be mentioned;love, altruism, patience and fairness...
2026-06-18 21:13:37
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mrs.sku
TinaJ. :
Whow 😳
2026-06-19 17:22:52
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la.la.b4
La La B :
Can you give examples of contempt
2026-06-19 05:53:49
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greiii__likethecolor
Greiii✨like✨the✨Color💫 :
Stay Light… it fuels your soul ✨🙏
2026-06-19 15:49:31
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aubra_cadabra
aubra_cadabra :
How do you stop contempt
2026-06-20 16:58:17
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bretlu2010
bretlu2010 :
Same with other forms of intimate relationships too.
2026-06-20 02:25:42
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jamzone21
Jamal Anderson :
I think contempt is the biggest here it can cause so much damage
2026-06-19 15:33:00
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aelos30
AELOS :
My whole experience was my ex being contemptuous with me. Worst experience ever.
2026-06-20 04:36:51
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