@the.heaven.project: It's our instinct to look in the mirror for answers to our problems, to think we can make ourselves whole again. We try everything and consistently when all we are thinking about is ourselves we see that our problems don't get solved, but then we simply look outside ourselves and we decide to serve and help others, to serve and love God. Then maybe not all at once but we notice our problems will start to fade and the things that really matter start to come into focus in our lives.