@unproblematicmak: I put quotes around SA bc it’s not SA if you “like it”. There is no such thing as enjoying being SA’d. Men and women envision SA differently and that plays into why men downplay it. #sa #consent #believesurvivors #endviolenceagainstwomen #saawareness

Emmalyn 🫶🏻 :

I fear they think of it as spontaneous sex not physical and sexual assault

cakedup :

As bad as it sounds, more men need a phallic instrument forced into their sphincter.

🌈🏳️‍⚧️ Her Ellaness 🍉🔞 :

My ex "thought women liked it".. I asked him if he liked the kiddie diddler forcing buttsecks on him in elementary and he walked out of the house crying.. He never accused me of enjoying an assault again..

bel ❤︎ :

you explained this very very well

alleyoopit :

Not to mention most men think 🍇-ist’s are random men popping out of the bushes. No, it’s something like 70% or more of these cases are done by intimate partners, friends, and FAMILY. It’s the men we know and think we can trusts.

babybaby420baby :

My jaw is still on the floor thank you for this.

IncoherentPopcorn :

they are TERRIFIED of prison

i ‹𝟹 larry bird :

theyre also likely imagining its a conventionally ATTRACTIVE woman who probably just pushes them around a little. they’re not imagining someone stronger than them in a situation where they’re truly in fear for their lives. the amount of times ive seen men say “i wouldnt have said anything” “hes lucky” on posts where young men & boys reported an sa by a woman is actually insane. they dont take it seriously.

fawn :

you ate this

givemeafuckingjoint :

ALSO they always envision a woman they’re attracted to. not just a random woman they find disgusting

SEBASTIAN !! :

thank you for not censoring anything

gregorymittens0 :

a lot of men only see women for sexual purposes. they cannot fathom the thought of her not enjoying intercourse. sorry my english is not good.

Vacaetion Trip :

They forget it’s painful . Ask men how they feel about going to prison 😫

yoru !! :

i am a man— I KNOW IT SAYS SHE/HER ON MY PROFILE i really like debating people + i go by all pronouns okay okay this is js my “girl” account. i have been 🍇 4 times by 2 women and sa’d by 19 by both + nonbinary. id like to say i agree, but it also might be because they only see grape as sex, and not an assault— yk, cuz they’re simple minded.

Ki | ᴅɪɢɪᴛᴀʟ ᴅɪᴀʀʏ :

Yep. I realized this 4 years ago.

Megan :

Not just that but they only see rape as it happening violently in an alleyway and they don’t consider things like coercion as rape which is wrong

Calebcest4ever :

And they never envision a relative, for a lot of women and young girls, their assaulted is related to them.

SchöneMomente :

Thank you for not censoring your wording!! It’s so important to word things as they are. Especially for this topic.

irotms :

you don’t understand how clearly you just explained this. i love you

Seren!(Halloween Edition)🎃 :

I have noticed that when women discuss things that also count as rap3 or SA/SH there are some men who get very very upset and angry because they have to come to terms with the fact that they have done something that falls under the umbrella of rap3, SA, or SH. On some level I “empathize” because I think I would also be extremely upset if I came to realize that I violated someone in some way, but on the other hand a lot of the things that women are saying are rap3, SA, or SH I already knew on a subconscious level that I should never do that to someone, regardless of whether or not I knew it definitively fell under that umbrella.

Brooklin! :

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ᖭི༏ᖫྀ :

lowkey I think my ex was like this 😭 he told me if he could die any way it would be a gorgeous girl killing him and then he constantly told me he wanted to be “used” until his breaking point and shit. mind you I’m asexual

Jeeperscreepers797 :

There’s also the fear of stds and pregnancy

Madison :

Thank you for using the real words and not downplaying anything