@elly.psychologist: If you're constantly checking their location or going through their socials and you can't seem to stop, this is about more than just anxiety. It's your relationship telling you something you might not want to hear yet. Checking feels like relief in the moment, but it's actually keeping you stuck. Every time you do it, you're teaching yourself that the only way to feel safe in your relationship is to monitor the other person, and that cycle will keep going until something changes. The hard truth is that no amount of checking fixes what's making you feel unsafe in your relationship in the first place. So stop checking, right now, as best you can. Then get genuinely curious about what's driving it, not to judge yourself, but to understand what your relationship is actually showing you. And find something grounding to do that has nothing to do with your phone, something practical or comforting in your immediate environment. The more you do that, the more you start to teach yourself that you can feel safe from within, without needing the other person's behaviour to confirm it #relationshiptok #Relationship #relationshiptips #relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems

Elly | Counseling Psychologist

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Friday 19 June 2026 13:10:00 GMT