@growwithkaela: Many of you have requested this video, and oof it hits close to home. 😔 I literally cannot think of a less attractive quality in a partner than lust. It’s very common in dismissive avoidants, and there’s a reason why. It’s not about you not being enough. The s3x with them is great. And somehow you still felt completely alone after. That’s the difference between dopamine and oxytocin. Their brain is always chasing the next dopamine hit, regardless of what is right in front of them… while you think you’re bonding through oxytocin. 💔 NOTE: As with every video I post, this is a generalization on DAs, and doesn’t apply to everyone. But it is more common than not.

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michellerayyourbigsis
Michelle Ray @Your.Big.Sister :
There was no sex (not bc of me). So this hits even harder…
2026-08-12 15:45:18
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mamaamymitch
user5889472633978 :
Thank you for helping us understand.
2026-08-26 17:32:17
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thisispunchright
thisispunchright :
Facts !
2026-07-16 07:18:46
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alexander_petrovic
Alexander_Petrovic :
This helps explain so much. I would feel SO disconnected from my avoidant ex when we were doing it. I could sense that he was NOT there. He was emotionally absent.
2026-06-21 16:09:14
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laurenhendry_4
laurenhendry_4 :
Great so we all 🔩so chance at Love
2026-07-25 01:07:38
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michellerayyourbigsis
Michelle Ray @Your.Big.Sister :
Facts. And to anyone who says porn is not problematic I would counter. It’s potentially problematic. For many (not all) men, the hit of dopamine they get from corn 🌽 will eventually not be enough. Many (not all) will then need something else. Maybe it’s a cyber sexual experience with their favorite corn star or something of the sort. We know how this ends. Eventually the things hidden will be found out and the other partner will be devastated. Afterall she shrunk her needs down to the lowest level of an ask and he still turned his erotic energy elsewhere. I learned not to take it personally. This is not a ME problem at all. This is a HIM problem. He is scared chicken shit. I just wished I knew back then what I know now and would not have wasted a bit of my time with a man who would never fully show up for me (intimately).
2026-08-12 15:41:09
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treydawg918
treydawg918 :
🔥🔥🔥
2026-06-29 17:45:20
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urmomsleftshoe.o
B :
Sooo true! My ex partner and I ( both FA) regularly used porn as a fast track to intimacy without having to put in the emotional work.. it worked until it didn’t.
2026-06-25 07:16:02
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