Dr Simone
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Friday 19 June 2026 15:41:56 GMT
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I’ve always been a massive internaliser and have had to do a lot of self-work around this, but a few years ago I found myself in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. They took no accountability, would explode under any criticism and stonewall me for days if I spoke up. I found that, under that pressure, I began to mimic them and became quite disorganised myself, sometimes withdrawing and trying to leave the relationship or regulate. I worry that I was a bad partner to them because I became very inconsistent and cold, but I think it was just the pressure. Does this sound like a common pattern?
2026-06-25 12:40:17
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lizasydney007 :
🙏 12.5
2026-06-29 16:47:35
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teashans90 :
Perfectly said 💯💯💯💯and your hair is beautiful
2026-06-29 06:17:06
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mikelahd :
what is DBT?
2026-06-29 05:09:07
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Karim :
that's a lot to take in . question . does it have to be when one understands that they are understanding? and does this not create enabling excuses?
2026-06-26 04:04:58
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Bellinee :
Yep, any feedback he took as direct attack to their character. I got always blamed for ”how” I said it, and that ”it was disrespectful” eventhough how I brought this was soft and loving with delivery and tone. He just filtered the feedback through his own shamewound and insecurities.
2026-06-21 06:03:12
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Shish :
You have just explained my marriage as so toxic that it took me so long to see I'm not the problem the form of abuse is all around, and it feels so hard to leave him but I'm trying .
2026-06-20 03:30:27
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Mandie Williams :
Omg I’m in shock listening to this my daughter has bpd and trying to build with her is so painful we haven’t spoken for four years
2026-06-26 18:35:22
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Squishy :
What would be your advice on a strategy for the internalised one in this dynamic?
2026-06-26 20:23:33
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Blunt_Force :
Simone, how do we manage these dynamics, can the person creating the push pull ever shift out of this pattern?
2026-06-20 15:23:52
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trulyasun :
You’ve explained this so well. Thank you 🙏
2026-06-20 22:34:59
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Freaky 🇵🇸 :
Your videos are very good. I am glad I found you. I could listen to you hours.
2026-06-19 19:15:14
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shakira :
is the attachment figure someone outside of the couple? a third party e.g. a parent?
2026-06-19 16:38:04
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Debbie Does DMP :
Can you pop some articles or research into the chat please? I would love to read more.
2026-06-20 05:47:06
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Girl on Fire ✨ :
this hits like no other explanation of my marriage. thank you
2026-06-23 09:56:03
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chloejobo :
I used to be disorganised.
2026-06-28 10:00:38
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sue :
Thank you this has helped me to try and make sense of my relationship 🙏
2026-06-19 22:21:13
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SoulSiv spiritual coach :
sounds like my ex husband
2026-06-19 20:36:45
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Mutant Hippie :
Wow! Insightful! I find this not only is within the realms of intimate relationships, but also platonic ones esp work relationships - to a level maybe I find this is more apparent when you’re in senior and upwards positions when more managerial skills are needed
2026-06-19 17:01:50
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rowe :
I was in a relationship like this for 5+ years long, very toxic indeed. Glad I came across your page. You are gorgeous btw
2026-06-20 10:25:49
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Mystic Tree :
wow, have never heard someone describe my marriage dynamic so adeptly. I left them, went further into myself, did a lot of healing work and have honestly come out of it a stronger, happier and a healthier, more person. Thank you for posting this, its so helpful and insightful!
2026-06-26 12:55:04
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HH Make Up Artist :
Thank you 🙏 this is everything I needed to understand the dynamic I now need to leave xx
2026-06-29 07:35:14
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Cherine Harrison :
I think this is so relevant to the parental alienation epidemic we are experiencing with a generation of children brought up on social media where they haven’t learnt emotional accountability but instead, block, ghost and mute people rather than sitting with feedback and reflecting on it
2026-06-29 10:00:50
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