@scott.austin.martin: One place couples get stuck is when they turn a capacity problem into a character problem. Sometimes a husband isn't failing because he doesn't love his wife enough. Sometimes he genuinely lacks the capacity to stay present with pain, regulate his nervous system, or hear feedback without becoming defensive. Telling someone to be more selfless when they don't have the nervous system tools to do it doesn't produce change. It produces shame. Growth happens when we address both — the heart and the skills, the values and the capacity, the spiritual and the psychological. Knowing what love requires is important. Developing the ability to consistently embody it under pressure is the work. #relationships #relationshiptips #nervoussystem #menscoach #spiritualbypassing

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