@thechrishinton: Most people think codependency is about another person. What if it’s actually about outsourcing your okayness to life’s outcomes? The relationship, the money, the health, the approval, the certainty… maybe they’re all pointing to the same thing. Maybe the deepest form of codependency isn’t with another person. Maybe it’s with reality itself. #codependency #codependencyps #h#healings#selfawarenessmentalhealth

Scorpio girl :

These parts were taught to us by our caretakers. That’s the most important part. They were installed not inherent.

Catherine Sandell :

Thank you, I so needed this right now! This has been my whole entire life! I just wasn’t taught any better. I’m still trying to figure it out!

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Jan :

Being ok and having expectations that were promised are two different things

Debra :

I love this explanation. As an abandoned child I can relate

MagicbyWayne :

What drives it is usually early conditioning — growing up in a household where love felt conditional, chaos was normal, or your role was to manage a parent's emotions (sometimes called being "parentified"). The distinction worth drawing: caring deeply about others is healthy. Codependency tips into dysfunction when your sense of identity, safety, and worth depends on controlling or managing another person's experience — and when you consistently disappear yourself in the process. Recovery typically involves learning to identify your own needs, building internal self-worth rather than relational self-worth, and developing the capacity to be present for others without losing yourself.

Shaz :

This has been the best explanation of codependency I've found. Thank you.

Lessly Diaz :

Serio‍usly, if y‍ou hav‍en’t re‍ad T‍he Hid‍den Li‍fe Co‍de by Ma‍son Beck‍erman ye‍t, wh‍at a‍re y‍ou ev‍en doi‍ng? It‍’s a to‍tal ga‍me chan‍ger.

ChelsRuss :

Thank you !

Christina Rivera :

I love IFS

Freya Fondly311 :

Truth!👌😁

Sandy-Davis22 :

I figured it out!

Saad :

Looking at it this way, it seems there is no road to happiness…🦋 happiness is the road…regardless of inner and outer turmoil.🦋

kevinsillo :

Wi‍ld th‍at I alm‍ost mis‍sed bo‍ok T‍he Hid‍den Li‍fe Co‍de by Ma‍son Becke‍rman… it fe‍els li‍ke know‍ledge ne‍ver me‍ant to be fou‍nd.

OneTakeTokin :

Well put

princess and treasure :

You're absolutely right

mscarpetta :

I needed this Today ..thank you .🙏

anitadecowsky :

I see this in my mom so often.

jacquismith11 :

flyfemale :

Oh the end is the best 👏

bex5570 :

Your posts are always so excellent, thank you!🧡

EKmusicalchick :

Absolutely fantastic explanation of what codependency really is! I lived that way for many many years, until I lost someone I loved more than life itself and started on a quest to figure out what was really wrong with me and what needed healing. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself and the people I love.

will.i.am :

✨💛✨💡 thank you im far from where I was and my healing is done the day I pass. thank you for your content and your time

Amber Nicole :

So then how do you CO CREATE a life with another person when you both have things you want from one another??