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Lauren Alexis Duncan :
It's the most isolating and heartbreaking thing. I've never even had a positive test. I feel left out constantly and even the people I've told don't ask about it or check in on me or anything. I feel so lost and alone....
2026-06-23 02:51:27
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Elaine Cope :
Man, the instant bond that people have when they are pregnant/have had a kid. I feel that so often. Thank you so much for speaking out!
2026-06-20 17:20:33
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Elli Juliane :
Thank you for sharing 🤍 I have a close family friend who is in her 60s and is childless by circumstance and I recently shared with her some of these experiences and she said to me "you are a complete person, you are whole. don't forget that." it brought tears to my eyes because going through infertility you feel so broken, but we do have value whether we have children or not. I'm here with you!
2026-06-21 14:55:05
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val.webb :
It’s a different type of isolation.
2026-06-21 17:17:11
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Lovina :
I saw your comment where you said you regret going on birth control. I just wanted to tell you that you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself for that. I grew up eating very little processed foods, I never used medication, was never on birth control and at the age of 21-22 we started trying to get pregnant. It took us a year to get pregnant and I have the most regular cycles. (I still think I might have endo because of my horrible period pains and other symptoms but I’m pregnant now ❤️)
2026-06-20 16:50:04
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Irene Esperante :
I really needed this. Childless not by choice. Happily married but sadly I don’t have “my village” and feel pretty alone 💔🥺
2026-06-21 10:47:23
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AmeriKife :
And on top of that, there are still people who say things like, "Hmm, are you really sure you’re ready for children?” or “Maybe it’s just not the right time for you?” As if months or years of trying, heartbreak, appointments, tests, and losses somehow happened because I simply hadn’t thought this through enough..🥲
2026-06-20 13:06:27
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Susie Q :
I can relate to this 1,000%. Personally I choose not to talk about it because I’m not interested in unsolicited fertility advice, period, even if it’s from someone who could somewhat relate. I also don’t want to create an environment of fostering anger, resentment or jealously from those who keep asking, not only for myself but also my husband. He has feelings in the matter, too. We’ve already been “trying all the things” and also not interested in IUI or IVF. I’d rather just sit in silence, pray, and trust that it if is His will, it will happen in due time, and if it’s not, for Him to make it so abundantly clear what His path is for us otherwise. Thank you for having the courage to speak up about this. It’s hard to watch friends and family drift from shore with their own families while you’re stuck silently struggling and suffering on your own little island.
2026-06-20 18:17:53
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Leslie Anne :
Girl. This is my/our EXACT story. Thank you for sharing and bringing awareness. ❤️❤️
2026-06-23 20:55:12
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Kayla Samson :
Thank you. I am also choosing not to pursue IVF after years of TTC and 3 failed rounds of IUI. And people don’t feel like I want it bad enough if I don’t do IVF or adopt
2026-06-26 18:04:36
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Coco Luna :
Thank you for saying this out loud!
2026-06-20 13:12:04
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🤍 :
My therapist asks me all the time why I put my whole worth into motherhood. I still can’t answer that question. The worst journey to be on but I’m trusting it’s for a reason ❤️thank you for sharing!
2026-06-23 14:21:52
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Catherine Hoyo :
After 7 years trying all possible treatments, 5 clinics, 3 countries and still without a baby. I relate to this so much, I already have a plan but it is hard to let go and give up on my dreams.
2026-06-21 11:13:42
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Taylor Wolfe :
I feel like my journey is less than because I’ve been blessed to never experience a miscarriage or never experience child loss because I can’t even experience a positive pregnancy test. I feel like I have nothing to complain about. But still feel sad. It’s infuriating and guilt inducing.
2026-06-30 13:39:27
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Becca🖤 :
As someone who’s also in the waiting room thank you for speaking on this topic!
2026-06-22 06:21:20
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dee :
I'll never forget when my brother making a comment about how busy their life was with kids and inferring that because I don't have kids I should be the one that makes the effort to call them because I live states away. knowing how long we've struggled to get pregnant i felt the comment was proof that he will never understand my pain and isolation I already feel. if they are so busy they should fit me into their busy schedule then. Just because I am childless doesn't mean my life is any less busy. it's just different.
2026-06-24 18:25:47
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EDurf :
I didn’t even go the IVF route because my husband didn’t want me to go through that pain. 8 years TTC, 3 miscarriages, and A LOT of growth, I’ve found out who my true friends are and I’ve also made peace with myself that it’s okay that I’m not a mom in this life. I’ll still be an amazing Aunt to my nieces and nephews 💕 Thank you for sharing your thoughts and story!
2026-06-26 22:43:51
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Haley 💙🌻 TTC & TTS :
Thank you…I’ve been feeling this so hard recently and I needed someone else to say it.
2026-06-22 22:23:43
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roseypinkquartz :
I’m so fucking exhausted I just want someone to talk with about this that doesn’t look at me differently after
2026-06-24 14:51:18
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Melanie Preiss :
I needed to hear this. As someone not pursuing ivf, I’ve been searching for support. Going on 6 years with no answers and no pregnancies, it’s rough. Husband is fine, I am fine, it’s unexplained.
2026-07-09 15:35:44
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Morgan Gradney :
Yup I had endometriosis and kept having surgery and all of these same experiences. I ended up having to have a hysterectomy due to massive tumors on my uterus. I will never have a baby.
2026-06-23 12:22:37
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🦋Shannon/Lupus Lemon🦋 :
I made a fb group as an off shoot from a larger fb infertility group I was in. There were 6 of us that were really tough cases… had tried everything & were told it would never happen. FIVE of them got pregnant & had babies & the last one just adopted. Here I sit still childless.
2026-06-24 20:17:05
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Destin |TTC & lifestyle 🐝 :
6 years TTC, 3 failed IUIs, looking into IVF now ❤️🩹
2026-06-26 01:50:13
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mhiggy7 :
i've done it all. had the laparoscopy, went through IUI, went through IVF, no child. I think it's made me learn to just appreciate my life where I am. and if I could tell someone anything it's that feel whatever you need to feel (rage, sadness, hopelessness, etc.) it's okay. but also, it is what it is. just love whatever your life is, with or without kids. sending love to everyone in the trenches of infertility 🖤
2026-06-27 05:04:21
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becca howell :
This is an immediate follow for me! You summed up the past three years of my life so beautifully in this video. Thank you for putting words what so many of us are unfortunately feeling.
2026-06-24 20:17:47
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