Opallauryn
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dumpsterfire_vampire :
We can’t afford to leave! Like it’s expensive to leave!!!
2026-06-20 15:57:31
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autumnreign08 :
I am literally living in this situation right now....
2026-06-20 15:40:40
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rongplaceright :
It’s a long and complicated and Careful extraction from a profound and expansive LIFE contract. When you can, take your time. Especially if children are on the scene it’s a very complicated decision that requires Careful!! planning.
2026-06-21 21:11:22
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Pyrex.mama.love :
also. I was 20. I thought we were going to grow up together, but only I did.
2026-06-20 18:49:15
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PeacheeeKeen :
*didn’t even occur to me* that when I needed him he wouldn’t be there. It was invisible until I really got sick
2026-06-20 18:27:18
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Danielle :
Because we gave up everything and have no way to leave
2026-06-20 17:59:42
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Terre :
Right! We met in college, got married 5 yrs after. Had our first kid 2 yrs after that. THAT is when it happened.
2026-06-21 01:14:14
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Christalle Marie :
And I found myself there MORE THAN ONCE 😅 never again though
2026-06-20 17:21:55
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Kelly B ✨ :
correct, it's calculated
2026-06-20 18:51:48
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Scavengerlove :
Part of why I stayed was bc I was told my expectations were the issue so I spent decades battling in my head w what I intrinsically knew vs how I was “told” to think feel and behave. If I’d have had maybe one person to agree that it was wrong then maybe I wouldn’t have spent all of the time and energy trying to “fix” me to fit him.
2026-06-20 17:04:31
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Reid :
sunk cost
2026-06-20 18:09:26
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Snack_dealer :
Thank you for your nuanced take!
2026-06-20 16:37:06
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Rosalie :
The amount of shame that we can hold surrounding these situations is wild. Thank you for supporting and encouraging us, by sharing your lived and observed experiences. Voices like yours help us women to not feel alone.
2026-06-20 16:06:03
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tiffanized :
These were things I wish I’d known as a younger woman. I could never explain why I divorced, because it was due to mental load and the assumption that I should do 90% of home-related tasks. When I would say that the response would always be “well that’s just what it means to be married”. Yes, apparently, and that’s why I no longer wanted to be married. It’s been almost 20 years and I haven’t regretted my divorce for a single moment.
2026-06-20 20:46:15
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toasted veda & cheese :
thank you for putting words to this!
2026-06-20 17:44:25
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Ali 💜🆘🇺🇸 :
I agree completely, I lived it for years. Also your eyes are so pretty 🥹
2026-06-20 18:08:51
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MAKU :
Same girl, same. He totally switched up on me.
2026-06-20 22:46:17
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Itsgottobekd🇨🇦🌾 :
This is why it’s so important to always have your own money. It’s so hard to leave when one person controls the finances and you maybe haven’t worked in a while or whatever it may be. No shared accounts, always have your own money, never sacrifice yourself for them.
2026-06-21 15:56:59
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a little bit bookish 🇨🇦 :
the venn diagram are two separate circles
2026-06-20 16:20:58
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Ceiba tree consulting :
We had all those conversations at premarital counseling which we did for MONTHS. It got progressively worse especially once I got pregnant & couldn’t do all the things anymore.
2026-06-21 12:24:33
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GiGi 🐋 :
I also had all the conversations with my last partner, but it didnt went that far into moving with him because I was lucky that I talked with my therapist and we analized some conducts and h behaviors I didnt liked. I had to remove whatever idea of the future I had to focus on the present and decide if I agree with his behavior. I didn't. a few months after we broke up, he was jobless and a few months more he was homeless.
2026-06-21 03:33:01
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Chelsey.🌸 :
Yupp this was me girl. I say it calmly 😂 ! He would say if you leave it’s possible I’m not coming back. This time I told him we are single. Idgad. he won’t expecting it but sis I’m so tired I can’t anymore. I’m here bc of my children. We keeping cordial bc of them.
2026-06-20 19:51:54
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Malkina :
Thank you!
2026-06-21 08:24:24
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Myra :
I think a lot of people hearing "finacially depend on" they think oh you depend on the other person to pay all or majority of the bills. But in reality more often it means you bought in something bigger than one person can afford, you need another person to pay/invest/help or else it wont work. You are still paying significant part of it, and it will eat into savings, fun time, self care when the other part is not doing enough. So when we talking about leaving, it takes a lot to just cut off the over loading part, and most of the cases it also take time to even realize the overload.
2026-06-21 14:23:24
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kweenius ✴️ :
Thank you.
2026-06-21 16:31:07
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