@ithinkimparanoids: Don’t make anyone feel bad about their issue, the amount of comments I see demonizing and making avoidant attachment look bad is just so weird and rude asf, People do not consciously "choose" this attachment style it is typically a defense mechanism formed in childhood due to inconsistent caregiving, emotional neglect, or early trauma, and it isn’t our fault really for having it, do NOT invalidate others for having it. It sucks being this way. #avoidantattachment

🃏 :

i get overwhelmed so easily

Evil Philadelphia CreamCheese :

wait this is making me insecure wdym people intentionally ignore messages 😥😥

vall.z¡sTo4k (kaseohh) :

"I was doing chores" when in reality, i was just doom scrolling and ignoring her messages.

🍓🍥🍰ᗰᗩᑕKEᖇEᒪ🍰🍥🍓 :

Sometimes I just can’t stand how much maintenance people need and how much they nag and the only thing that I want to do is just rot and have no obligations

^~UnønchiXD~^ :

I’m so desperate to chat or hangout to someone, ANYONE, but the moment something happens or someone wants to chat, then I become avoidant

رورو :

How to fix it? i end up alone from ts

Crazzyy_Juliee :

I genuinely cant repost this, but this is so relatable

,,𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 👀 :

I literally ignore people for hours and keep them waiting and I feel so guilty when they ask what I was doing when I was gone

quirrel_irl :

brozuders345 :

how is this avoidant attachment yall just didn't want to do anything it can even just be called being tired or lazy to do smth?

neneanfan3000 :

i just cant bring myself to reply tbh and i have no idea why, even if i care for the person who’s texting it feels like such a huge chore to even open their messages and reply even when i want to 💔

♯ ⋮ 𝄞 liam ༉ .ᐟ ★ :

its been months since ive responded to a friend yikes👀👀

girlboss :

it's true that avoidant people aren't like this on purpose and its not their fault but it's also true that this kind of behavior still hurts people. two things can be true at once and holding space for both isn't invalidating to either party

abi :

i complain that people dont talk to me but when they do i ignore them i think im just bitter that they have so many people they'd pick over me

appil :

And then I cry because no one wants to talk to me 💔

𝐍𝐢𝐤𝐤𝐲˚.🍡🎀༘⋆ :

Sometimes I lowkey just don’t wanna talk to people and I feel bad about it💔

BERUUU :

I hate talking to people who only come to me for help and never help me

﹒ :

until i get the imaginary green light in my head, thats when ill respond

🍙 Nakamura !! :

My social battery is genuinely not that good😓😓 it’s tough talking to people😭😭

Seo :

How do i fix this genuinely

ayeshartedmypants :

fr, opening messages from anyone feels like a chore

ryuggone :

Is there like a “cure” to this? Idk why I ignore people, like I see their message notification and I’m like “respond!” But I can’t some reason, it’s like I’m having a public irl conversation and I just freeze because idk what to say back, so I respond later after I think of a perfect response 😭 I’m like please talk to me but then I’m like please don’t talk to me at the same time, it’s annoying and idk how to get over it, it’s not on purpose