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IssaWin :
If people were actually seeking to date for LOVE this would come naturally.
2026-06-21 09:45:22
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🌸 𝘿𝙤𝙡𝙡👄𝙁𝙖𝙘𝙚 🌸 :
You can’t “heal” another adult because that is an internal process. But you can create a safe environment for them to work through their issues. Using words like “owe” can give the wrong impression and create toxic co-dependency. You can help someone heal but not at the cost of your own well being. There is also emotional enmeshment to consider. Sorry I know this comment is kinda taking a different direction but i mean well. This is coming from someone who was always used to “heal” others.
2026-06-21 04:29:37
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Kay 🦋 :
No one can heal another person, and it isn’t fair to make that their responsibility. You can support them, but they have to be willing to do the work themselves. And if trying to help them starts costing you your own peace or well-being, then it’s no longer something you should keep trying to do.
2026-06-25 02:06:51
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Mace :
well yeah, I don't owe anyone any obligations and they don't owe me any
2026-06-20 16:46:37
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fieryphoenix :
that's always been the purpose heal through changed experiences but people are self serving
2026-06-21 14:36:00
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m_teresa_2025 :
Everyone wants to find the perfect person! Nobody wants to be that to another. 👏👏👏 ❤️❤️❤️good pov my friend
2026-06-20 18:06:42
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Janice83❤️🥰 :
This is why there is a loneliness epidemic. People do not think they owe the person they are courting any obligation and or effort to heal and reassure that person they will be different. You are absolutely correct.
2026-06-20 18:05:20
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rochellerants 🇯🇲🇧🇿 :
You can be a witness to their healing but you cannot help someone heal if they don’t want to. The best thing you can do is show up as the healthiest person you can be and if he/she can’t heal despite your behavior. Not on you.
2026-06-21 01:34:24
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Atomic Crouton :
no. No one can heal someone else. They have to heal themselves. Now I can stand with them. I can hold space for processing and feelings. I can talk through strategies and talk through what we need to do to move forward. That doesn't mean I am responsible for healing them.
2026-06-21 20:40:23
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chronic :
I hear the message however we are missing the fact that healing is a personal thing. Yes someone can be there for you however I don’t believe it’s healthy to actively assume someone else is going to heal you.
2026-06-21 22:09:46
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OMAHPLLC Store :
No.
2026-06-20 16:21:58
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DjediStar :
Heal yourself. No one owes you that. You’re supposed to heal yourself.
2026-06-21 01:07:52
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🌸 britt 🇵🇷 🌸 :
Oh I help them heal. Heal enough to dump me and move onto the next. I’m depleted now.
2026-06-21 01:17:40
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true2me :
you have to consider and regard your partners feelings, otherwise leave ppl alone
2026-06-21 19:58:52
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Sabrina Spellman :
My issue I’m encountering is that I often will try to help the other person heal, I go to length to learn about their attachment styles and what’s going on and how to better communicate with them - but they aren’t trying to help me so I end up with a man who I’m helping, but I’m not allowed to actually show that I’m upset or feeling anything because then once again, his wounds get reactivated and it’s a fight. So I think it’s also that it’s not a two-way street.
2026-06-23 17:12:43
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Rain-e :
I don’t like the term obligated, but I agree with you 100%. I will do my best to create a safe space and help him as much as I can. If you genuinely care for the person, you will understand their struggles. We are living in a world full of broken people, but if you truly like someone it’s worth helping them glue their broken pieces back together.
2026-06-21 05:47:41
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✨️💖✨️Mekia✨️💖✨️ :
❤️❤️❤️
2026-06-22 21:21:05
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The Lord protects Che :
💯Or him. I agree however be very picky.
2026-06-20 22:09:47
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Lee Williams :
This makes so much sense. Both party has to make an effort to make a change.
2026-06-20 21:55:56
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Jewel :
I think most people are willing to help with heal so long as the healing party is actively participating amd aware of how they're impacted by past hurts and how it shows up day-to-day!
2026-06-21 22:08:25
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Tracey | Become H.E.R :
I know rage bait when I hear it.
2026-06-21 21:41:50
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Tee :
You’re absolutely right.
2026-06-22 04:08:26
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JOI💕 :
i thought this was common sense
2026-06-22 13:55:26
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Grace Lone Coyote :
This is common sense
2026-06-21 12:19:17
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solange_slapper_hand :
If they are putting in the effort themselves I’ll support them
2026-06-21 21:25:17
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