Dr. Nicole LePera
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Saturday 20 June 2026 21:05:19 GMT
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Allison Casey :
More enmeshment content pls !!!!!!
2026-06-20 21:36:42
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Elaina🍒🫧 :
I’m 32 I still put their feelings first
2026-06-20 21:45:03
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EditedHorizons :
It's just so hard. The rollercoaster and the guilt.
2026-06-20 21:15:19
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Lucylou 🌻 :
2 months no contact, it’s hard at times but it’s the right decision for now
2026-06-21 14:27:39
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happy-wife :
My therapist once asked me…. Why do you have more empathy for your mom than you do for yourself? —— that has STUCK with me.
2026-06-24 19:30:58
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HachitheShiba :
This is so true with my mother. She makes me feel responsible for her like I need to do everything for her and honestly, I have created my own life, but she puts that guilt on me every single day. Because of her poor life choices, she makes me responsible.
2026-06-20 21:57:24
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ugh :
The hardest part for me has been the grieving of the relationship we had before boundaries. I miss being goofy and open with them, but also acknowledge that two things can exist at once. It took me 31 years to even realize that our relationship was enmeshed. Now from the outside of the bubble I can see clearly the behaviors that used to drive me into rage and turmoil. Yes, my reactions and responses are MY responsibility, but why allow it to get to the point of reaction, you know? Life these days with them involves a lot of gray rocking and loving silently from a distance.
2026-06-22 06:50:06
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Mandysaurous77 :
Legit took until my mid thirties to get a handle on this.
2026-06-20 23:05:19
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estrojen :
Ever since I set boundaries with my parents, our relationship has really been strained. My mom’s health took a steep decline and I feel so guilty.
2026-06-29 17:39:12
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lindmill :
If you can, fix it before the parent is elderly. It only will get harder at that point. They expect more and it will be harder to set the boundaries at that time.
2026-06-22 15:45:10
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🍄 :
Me. My parents aren’t talking to me right now bc I traveled for a wedding and didn’t mention to them I was traveling… I’m 34!
2026-06-25 19:09:40
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Amanda Estell :
My emotionally immature parents are gone… I’m 30 and I’m just learning what I like. I’ve never even felt comfortable having a favorite ANYTHING because I didn’t know if my opinion was the correct one.
2026-06-21 16:18:22
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jess :
Went no contact in November. Holding strong!!
2026-06-20 21:23:43
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Amber Goff :
This is even worse for an only child 😖
2026-06-22 21:40:13
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FeralTraveler :
The problem is that, unless you become aware of how your upbringing, conditioning, neglect or abuse affected your very sense of reality, affected your deep, taken-for-granted beliefs, affected your attachment patterns, assumptions and fears, limited your sense of what is possible and allowed FOR YOU… then what can feel like your own choices aren’t really your own. It’s like Jung said— those underlying beliefs and adaptations will run the show and you will call it fate.
2026-06-26 07:11:48
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Kristy 🌻 :
She tells me “you are all I have”More of this please. It’s so toxic I’m 50 ✨🙏🏻😩😭
2026-06-21 03:34:45
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k1wigal :
Currently I’m making him work out his cellphone. My dad has blindly chosen to ignore technology and made it my problem. I live 8 hours away. He needs to problem solve this one. This is the real first time I’m really digging in the boundaries. The emotional manipulation is getting old though
2026-06-20 22:36:47
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el Johnvo :
I remember getting yelled at or mocked every time I expressed an opinion
2026-06-21 15:00:18
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Maureen Ponderosa :
The answer I always get “well im your mother!”
2026-06-21 01:42:13
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Precious Sunshine :
Subconsciously? Ha! My father came right out and told me once it's my job to put on a happy face to make him feel better.
2026-06-22 21:46:55
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hellodarkness1983🧿 :
My mother literally said to me, when i tried to keep my new relationship separate from her, you can’t have it both ways. Meaning i couldn’t have a close relationship with her and also have autonomy. That messed me up for a long time.
2026-06-20 23:31:30
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csvm2p2 :
The guilt is insaneeee... Omggg
2026-06-21 08:49:36
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shazie✨ :
i’m so tired of feeling this way 😭
2026-06-22 11:34:30
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bobbiejcjg24 :
I’m 52 and I still put their emotions and needs over my own 😢
2026-06-22 16:26:39
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BexOh :
I’ve gone no contact but it still gets me every once in a while where I feel bad about it
2026-06-20 22:34:33
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