The Pottymouth Guru
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The Pottymouth Guru :
Defensiveness often sounds like self-protection, but it feels like disconnection to the person on the receiving end. ❤️🤟🏻🌿
2026-06-20 21:23:10
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rooftop2table w/ Derek Vincent :
As the partner of a defensive person, this felt like you knew my partner personally—it’s crazy accurate from my experience. So, I have to ask if I can share my feeling, share very carefully, monitor and regulate their emotional state (taking breaks when they are getting too activated), and keep them from using all their tricks to get out of listening, validating and empathizing with me. Frankly, it’s exhausting… does this ever get better? How can we get through disagreements without me having to do all this emotional labour? 😮💨
2026-06-25 01:21:31
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Boik :
What about these archetypes when they don’t go into defensiveness for instance I tend to take on the blame because I feel that if I have any small part to do with the situation, then I have everything to do with the situation and I want other people to know that I am not jerking my responsibility to that so I get a really bad shame and self plain cycle and I make sure people know that I’m doing it rather than defending myself
2026-07-04 21:55:27
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majanke1 :
Me and my husband both fit into these categories, we don’t communicate well at all when hard issues arise. We are both very defensive and I can’t get my hurt out, and he deflects. I have no idea how to go about repairing this, couples therapy? Im about to go mad.
2026-07-19 12:23:58
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jakesurname :
Or it's not a childhood adaptation to their parents, but a current adaptation to the person they're currently interacting with. Also you kind of glossed over the possibility of unjustified or wrong criticism - misjudgement here is probably the actual crux of the issue. What's the value in analysing your childhood really, when you haven't ruled out the obvious and most likely.
2026-06-21 02:22:54
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Shannon Brown :
Got to the point where I could rarely tease or banter. Even if I joked gently with a smile on my face it's "Ok.... So you're just gonna criticize me?!" If you can't have fun in a relationship it becomes extremely tense
2026-06-20 23:17:27
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chichimama50 :
i literally ALWAYS feel like i am in trouble!! 😳 it affects my work, relationships,everything..but on the other side of the coin, my partner is also defensive and we have insane fights. i have startes to just shut down communication
2026-06-21 01:37:46
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𝑺𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒂 𝑬𝒍𝒊𝒛𝒆 🥀 :
This was soo informative 🤌🏼 I love learning psychology lol keep these coming!!
2026-06-21 03:52:00
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IsekaiMePls🌎 :
thank you for posting
2026-06-28 00:48:26
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Bamill93 :
What do you do when you feel like you wear more than one of those hats? I feel like at least 4 of them struck me deeply. I can't seen but it only further showed complexity I still don't fully understand.
2026-06-21 11:35:06
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Maureen :
Such a great way to reframe this struggle
2026-06-20 22:32:42
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Tish Lewis :
😂😂😂
2026-06-22 00:33:17
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