Codependency Kate
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Monday 22 June 2026 13:36:18 GMT
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Crimsoncorgi :
I try to apologize all the time. I don't use "but" or try to excuse it. I mess up a ton. I also still hug and kiss them. my mom stopped when I was 7 or so. I still do not so great things, but I'm trying to learn
2026-06-22 14:30:18
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simplyclaudv :
As a mom I see myself as the bumpers in a bowling alley, there to guide and help but not micromanage their life.
2026-06-22 18:53:02
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sevindee :
With apologizing, it’s also so important for parents to understand that trust & forgiveness are two separate functions. You can fully accept someone’s apology while also believing they’d do it again if they had the opportunity. That doesn’t mean you don’t forgive them. For example, I forgive my pets for ruining some of my belongings, but I also don’t trust them around nice things. Not out of resentment, but because it just makes sense.
2026-06-22 15:10:28
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paintedragon :
if either of my parents had ever apologized to me ONCE. For ANYTHING. I wouldn't have been shut down around them. An apology would have shown that I was worth something to them. Worth the very basic amount to not deserve bad treatment just for existing and it doesn't matter because it's just me.
2026-06-23 22:22:02
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IvyRose :
This really put in perspective that me and my mom were very enmeshed 😓
2026-06-22 19:43:53
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shinythingand :
I decided that my ego was never going to be the most important thing. I apologize. I talked to her like a person. I respect her choices. I do my best to inform her of life and support what she wants to do. I remind her that I'm proud of her. I never tease her. I respect her boundaries. I include her in decision-making. I explain things when she's upset. I help her navigate difficult situations. And not a single one of these things has my mom never done for me.
2026-06-24 19:06:14
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Jsvxvdjelskdbd review :
My daughter isn’t due until August but my oldest son is turning 16 so I can confidently say all of this works for sons as well!! No judgement, a we can fix it attitude. My son tells me everything because he knows I will never judge him, we just guide and give advice when he asks. Be your child’s safe space.
2026-06-22 14:35:51
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Racquel Holmes100 :
My daughter and I have a wonderful relationship. She is 17 years old and we have navigated the teenage years beautifully. Communication, mutual respect and boundaries are key. Genuinely being interested in the person that she is growing into and supporting her. I love the analogy of when you’re teaching them to drive. They have control of the wheel you are just there to guide and support!❤️
2026-06-24 14:05:08
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fenwitch.cottages :
people assume discipline means to punish, but like you said it's to teach. I don't know where that got twisted in our society but I didn't punish my kids. never. seriously. they're now the most kind, thoughtful adults because I guided them through hard times and still do, and they come to me for help and advice
2026-06-22 16:30:04
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kristihightower :
This made me cry. The best “apology” I ever got from my mom was “I’m sorry you feel that way” which is definitely not helpful. I’m no contact for over a year now
2026-06-23 18:51:03
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Dr. izmo :
As an adult daughter of a mom that never liked her, this gives me so much hope. Y'all are really out here doing the best for your kids. 🥰🥰
2026-06-22 20:46:31
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luxuryVHS.exe :
I can’t even talk about my c-section, giving birth, or being a new mom because my mom just says “oh I have been through that. You’ll be fine.” It’s as if she doesn’t understand I’m a different person than she is. I am used to it, but I, mistakenly, thought she’d be different when I became a mom.
2026-06-25 09:10:31
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HagridHair🫠Heather :
mine is 21 now. and open, honest communication is the key.
2026-06-22 15:57:58
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infinitea :
Enmeshment! That works too 😂
2026-06-23 14:35:40
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LaPaloma🇲🇽 :
my daughter and I would have huge fights on how to do anything one day I sat her down and told her we're different as a mom I want to make her life easier so I insist my way because it works for me but I have to understand she's different than me and even if it's hard to me its her way and that's ok. and that whenever we get frustrated just remind each other that were different
2026-06-22 20:52:07
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JASWFAMILY :
we need more of this please🥰
2026-06-22 15:58:39
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The Garden and Grimoire 📚🌿 :
My mom messed up a lot as a young mom, and apologizing made it so much better. she always owned her fuck ups and held herself accountable and I'm so proud of what an amazing grandma she's become.
2026-06-23 02:30:01
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notabird :
i find it healing reading about good relationships on the internet. ill never have that in my own life so i really enjoy seeing them❤️well done to some folks
2026-06-22 20:38:38
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zdmm005 :
Thank you for sharing!
2026-06-22 14:10:47
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Bing Bing Bong :
I have 2 x girls aged 16 & 18 who choose to live with me full time. I was super strict when they were young and accepted I wouldn’t be the ‘cool mum’ back then. Now, I’m the ‘cool mum’ but there are rules and respect. I’m always there for them, guide them, they can talk to me about anything, I give them emotional support and they have freedom to direct and lead their own lives. I’ve been through a lot and they give me space for my ‘crash outs’, the same as when they want space for theirs.
2026-06-22 20:13:51
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🥰🥳🥃Katie :
Hi kids tell me almost everything but my mom gets limited information because anytime I share something it's always tons of questions back or a change of subject
2026-06-22 15:17:51
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🦋𝕷𝖚𝖈𝖎𝖉 𝕭𝖆𝖉𝖉𝖎𝖊🦋 :
my mum is my best friend. I'm 38. she's been all these things for me. 🫶🏽 I'm so grateful
2026-06-22 20:36:32
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goaround88 :
My Mom and I are very close. I am the eldest daughter so I am not sure if it may be due to trauma (I am joking...or maybe not) but I helped a lot with my younger sisters and this made my Mom trust me with a lot of things -we have shared q lot of secrets and continue to do so. This is what makes it great for me, I have not had to ever hide anything from her. Only starting to do it now that she is much older, as she has changed and is now more of a child (shares all secrets, says things that hurt and does not spologise, etc). I am worried it may be dementia like my grandma had. Enjoy your Moms those of you who can❤️
2026-06-22 16:23:12
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Kelsey’sSalonSuite_KatyTX :
I just wanted and want my mom to spend time with me… take me shopping take my kids shopping or just come visit. She’s still too wrapped up in her own self and my dad.
2026-06-24 13:20:05
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Ash 🇨🇦 :
the way i do it is just letting her know there are no wrong answers only learning opportunities. we approach things kind of like more of a mentorship role combined with bestie role - rather than traditional parent. we still say no, and we still give consequences for poor choices, but we explain what they are and how they will help her improve. we also ensure to never invalidate emotions. we help place them in the right boxes instead. I mean... her teacher at preschool even mentioned how different things are with us. we ensure we leave ghe house early so that way we can take our time saying goodbye and setting her up for a good day. the other parents just fly out of there like they are urgently trying to get away, not like they wish they didnt have to. she doenst cry for us. she doenst beg us to stay. she just enjoys the slower pace with us. be sacrifice 15 minutes of sleep to set her up for feeling appreciated as a family member.
2026-06-22 16:23:57
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