@scott.austin.martin: The two biggest coping mechanisms in the world are projection and avoidance. They work. They take away discomfort quickly. They just don't heal anything. I'm not here to tell anyone to stay in a toxic situation or keep tolerating behavior that crosses healthy boundaries. But my work is also not about throwing people away. "Just run." "If they wanted to, they would." I understand where those come from. But human behavior is rarely that black and white. We live in a world full of unresolved trauma. Many people were never taught emotional regulation, repair, or how to create safety in relationships. The moment we call someone a bad person simply because they were conditioned in certain ways and never learned certain skills, shame enters the conversation. And shame doesn't create change. Shame pulls the hood down before we ever get a chance to look under it and examine the engine. #relationships #relationshiptips #nervoussystem #menscoach #attachmentstyles

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