@lamiriamjohnson_: DARVO in the workplace is more common than people realize. You go to your manager with a legitimate concern—something that’s impacting your work, your wellbeing, or your team dynamics. Instead of addressing it, the conversation suddenly shifts. Now you’re being told you’re “overreacting,” “misunderstanding,” or “being difficult.” The original issue gets denied. Then the roles flip… and suddenly you are the problem for even bringing it up. That’s DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. It can leave you questioning your reality, staying silent, or second-guessing whether you should’ve spoken up at all. But recognizing the pattern is the first step in breaking it. Your concerns don’t lose validity just because someone reacts defensively to them. #toxicboss #DARVO #ToxicWorkplac

celiastroud :

Happened last week.

Paws1shop :

darvo is exactly whatI have going on

Muthoni Kamau king'ei :

DARVO...reason I just lost the J

beautiful712 :

This just happened to me. I was bullied by co workers and my boss turned it on me saying I was the problem and demoted me.

BeyondTheBarn@WHR :

Yep. Now I just document and stay to myself

TheFabricator88_ :

Brought up concerns got told “I don’t have that problem with them/that”

Holly Lynn :

I have had this happen and flipped it on me. I get told I have to be nice

ariels :

Yeah, and he got me fired, smh

Locqueen :

Every day

T-Payne :

This happened to me. I noticed it and addressed it and now I’m the mean girl. Lol

its_me_agann3 :

HR did this to me. Said they interviewed other co workers and came to the decision that no one else was having these issues with them so they’re closing the investigation

SukiChan :

Now you start playing the game… (it’s not but still, lol) according to our employee handbook… according to the department of labor… according to the law… you -need- to know these things! If you KNOW you are about to have a meeting PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE read up. Come with a small notebook with times and dates of things happening. You are NOT crazy or overthinking. They want to take no responsibility for things that happen.

Rina :

L.Zeno :

Yeah, I got fired

🐞Lisa :

This is happening to me right now

Alex Beede :

Just got fired for it

Msvelveetacheese :

100% … so I’ve gone silent I say nothing now.

Witchy mama :

Every single time,

hotharleygirl :

yes

Mary J :

Yes

idnarb73yevleb :

Every day

Meg Quinlan :

this happened this week. 😭

Sherry :

Yep

KT :

Yes

michelle gilliland :

every day