@the_control_code: “Staying neutral” between an abuser and the person they abuse is neither fairness nor equality It’s free labor for them. #coercivecontrol #narcissisticabuse #thecontrolcode #coparenting #postseparationabuse

tcb :

abuse doesn't make you an abuser. being an abuser makes you abuse 🤷‍♀️

Daisy Darling :

Tell that to ChatGpt who always tries too hard to be "objective" it sounds drunk

Phoenix, B*tch! :

Reactive abuse is often used to shift blame. Equating the two is gaslighting. Trust your reality; you are not the problem.

Thesecretworldofalexmack :

The reaction wouldn’t exist without the abuse

Gabby :

I feel like my friend does this every time I tell her what I’m going through

Pinktinybubbles :

Some cops even knew better than to compare my reactive abuse to the abuse I had received. COPS EVEN. Shocked me lol

CharlieDoingCharlieStuff :

who in the hell said that?????? 🧡🩷💚💙🩵🩵 they said the loud part louder

dionnapresley :

I heard an emts girlfriend say on the phone "mutual abuse"

Rebekah | Built different :

thank you and absolutely not the sams

smoke dalight :

the reactive abuser is definitely worse

Ericaleecanopener :

Wooooooohoooooo! Yassss! Gurl. Oh you know what you’re talking about. I’m

Heart&Joy :

💯 I need this in writing ,love

Naphou 🌸 :

Ok you don't realize how validating that is cuz I've been hesitating to call it abuse for the longest time because I did some stuff back I'm not proud of but like would I have ever done that if I wasn't treated like less than human for our entire relationship ??! I literally tried so hard to be understanding and forgiving and it just made it so much worse

anthonycutt :

Agree with all of that but also, FIFA said you're sent off.

VeraCITY_NYC :

Me, it's ME who said it, too.

🦙 Môrnïng BøøPs 🦙 :

wait, I saw your lips moving!!!! 🫵🏼🫵🏼🫵🏼🫵🏼 🤣🤣🤣🤣🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

micha_belle_ :

Right! Who said that?!! Hmm

Krissy_1023 :

Yep.

Windy City :

Bri_Faeryn :

Teachers also do this to bullied children they try to make it “even Steven” with the aggressor. It’s so cowardly.

FeyLabourTheory :

Around the World With Ash :

*cough cough* the police

Alison :

And then those same people you are describing want your sympathy and care. That’s the icing on the cake of their logic.

Poxxi's Peculiarities :

Fundamental attribution error